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Where do i start when i have no experience whatsoever?

cntthnko1 · 2014-08-24T07:21:31+00:00

I feel like there is no hope... But i guess that means i have nothing to lose, so lay it on me....

cntthnko1

August 24, 2014

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Title	Where do i start when i have no experience whatsoever?
Author	cntthnko1
Upvotes	2
Comments	13
Date	August 24, 2014 7:21 AM UTC (11 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/2efgrf/where_do_i_start_when_i_have_no_experience/
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[–]adhvyth3 points4 points5 points 11 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

[–]cntthnko1[S] 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

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[–]cntthnko1[S] 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link

Got a job like that, already learning a fuck ton. I don't notice the construct part consciously because I never thought to see it that way, but i do realize its a construct (but there is still accepted behavior which is what I'm missing and am gaining with this job).
lol, i meant to say zero (making female friends though, at work).
Understood.
Understood.
A lot good stuff here.

For the rest: Will look for those books and that subreddit. I have decent control over myself, can instantly just stop all emotions if I wanted; I HAD to learn this meditation crap, the sadness was getting too much.

What is the purpose of the tech fast day in your words? I can just shut it all out and only using when actually necessary (school or news and whatnot), if the reason is good enough.

Got the diet going already.

Will get started on the reading ASAP. Thanks for your time bud, means a lot.

Just give me an answer on the "tech fast" thing, thanks.

[–]asd1100 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link

that doesn't sound like a toddler but a young man, you made me underestimate you. In that case, start asking hot chicks out on dates, don't pursuit fucking, just having fun with another human being in a relaxed unorganised spontaneous fashion. Rejection doesn't matter, you don't loose anything(remember no fear), you just gave a compliment that people frown upon: you said you find her attractive enough you want to spend some time with her.
there are no female friends, there are acquaintances, we formally call friends(social construct)

The purpose of the tech fast it to let you brain have a break. You are constantly bombarding it with input, some brains loose eficiency, we interpret it as ADD, sometimes it just stops processing which can apear as depresion or "autist like" withdrawal. (at this point in our culture psychiatry is just a bunch of labels we to a bunch of symptoms). I am recomending that you offer your brain normal natural conditions and see if it still misfires. Eliminating environmental issues you can determine if its transitory or chronic. Modern Psychiatry tries to force the brain into behaving normal, disregarding that we do not live in "normal" enviroments and we ask of it much more than it was designed to do.

Yes you can disconect, it's hard as shit(mentally much more than practically), but also very rewarding to "rediscover" what 8 hours of doing nothing feels like, it's like living a week of life in the span between sun rise and sunset. It's also extremely inlightineing(after you get past the desperation of not doing, engaging wasting time) you get a awareness back that you tough you lost, or never really experienced (if you never really spent your time just having fun without technology). It's like everything becomes more detailed, things start making sense at how they work and interconect, people become interesting, even boring people. You suddenly get a idea that life before the internet wasn't less but more, despite having less.

You can definitely do homework, as long as it's analog(pen and paper). You do not need news as much as you think you do, have a chat with a friend in return, face to face no phones(that's going to be awkward)

[–]cntthnko1[S] 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link

Nah, honestly, it still feels like I'm just hitting puberty and just finding interest in girls (metaphor) -- you should also note, I wasn't born into this culture, so i'm missing much more than you think. The nervousness of asking someone out for the first time... there is no "start asking hot chicks out on dates" for me, not yet. Body still needs work, mind needs a fuck ton more. This has to be a slow process. The reason I can talk to the girls at work is because I dont want them.

Anyways, at this point, I am not even close, like i said, still puberty, still reading.

side question: from what you know about me, how would a girl react if I was a solid 9 (10 with a 2-3 months of gym); if I just man up and ask a girl out today (as you suggest) but considering how I will probably do beta shit. I am just wondering how much looks matter (luckily, I have somewhat of a model face to work with). I would honestly rather not until I fix my mentality.

[–]asd1100 1 point2 points3 points 11 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link

I wasn't born into this culture

nobody is born in culture, we assimilate it, with both the bad and the good.

The nervousness of asking someone out for the first time... there is no "start asking hot chicks out on dates" for me, not yet

then don't ask them on dates, just ask them out for a coffee, a cold beer on a summer evening, or even a bloody walk, a oportunity to talk and spend time with them.

This has to be a slow process. The reason I can talk to the girls at work is because I dont want them.

that sounds like an excuse, you don't have to want them, this is training, if she wants to "get serious" just lay back and enjoy. You won't marvelously fall in love with a gorgeous chick and miraculously know all the right things to say.(And believe me, that right girl can be in your near future and you are as engaging as a paraplegic)

Also girls hate dates even more than guys, so even when you're advanced I don't recomend you asking for a date.

I think being safe is the most dangerous feeling humans are capable of. It is basically a state of conscious death.

You can't be a 9-10 at 23. Personality is exponentially important if you want to "date" but that needs to be worked out as well, and that is done by lifting, start small(small talk), progress to medium sets and some conditioning(friendships and learning to engage with stragers) and then you start lifting heavy weights(one on one interactions, building rapport and even escalating phisically). And just like with weights you can not stay in a comfort zone, you need to push your limits every day, session by session.

You don't know how to do beta shit, you will be to aloof to even be on the spectrum. But in failing and being able to have a laugh at it. You will exhibit courage, honesty and inner strenght, and that is crucial for seeing yourself as more than a social retard, you need to score some point to believe it's possible to even win someday. Just training is not enough, you need to get on the pictch and at least try to score(not get laid but have a engaging conversation with another person).

It would also have helped you out to see that even at your lowest point people are still understanding and see the good parts of you(I doubt you would have had the balls to go ask out a cheerleader with a bitchy attidute so I did take a risk on that one, but I did mention that you should treat a bitch like a bitch, so I kinda covered even that eventuality)

Learn by failing.

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