Zero experience in life? How do I fix it?

trpboy123 · 2019-03-21T01:53:40+00:00

Start by meeting new people. Strike up a convo with anyone you find interesting. Don't worry if you or they don't find each other interesting. Slowly end the convo if that's the case. Otherwise, just continue with the convo and schedule some hangouts.

Find out what interests you. There are always groups for each interests. You like skateboarding? Hit the skatepark or something. Meet people there. Make connections. Hangout. Repeat. If you don't know what you are interested in, just look around you. People are usually interested in what people near you are interested in. For example, my friend is really interested in video editing. I wasn't. But I have been around for a long time and now I like it as much as him.

Also stop giving a fuck about what other people do. Every one has their ups and downs. Its not like they are always enjoying shit. Good luck

sadshark · 2019-03-21T09:46:39+00:00

Overcome your social anxiety by doing that which you are afraid of. Eventually, your brain will learn that nothing bad ever happens and it will rewire itself. Like, literally phisically rewire itself without any effort from your part.

You can overthink it as much as you want, nothing is going to happen unless you take action and start being more social.

Is it gonna suck at first? Sure! Will it make you cringe at night and make you uncomfortable? You bet! Is it gonna kill you? Nope.

Be comfortable in the uncomfortable.

nross368 · 2019-03-21T08:13:38+00:00

Move to another country. Do the one thing that will put you the furthest out of your comfort zone possible and see how you cope. If you cope you'll get self esteem. Or complain on an online form and do nothing about it. Just fucking do something.

MrAgamemnon · 2019-03-21T08:26:48+00:00

I work at a factory 40 hours a week making $12/hour.

Get a job where you interact with people. Bar, cafe, flipping burgers, delivering pizza...

Thinkingard · 2019-03-21T13:38:36+00:00

Zero experience, eh? First off, find another job, you won't gain any transferable skills at a factory. Get a sales job because you live with your parents and can afford to fail, but the experience and growth you will experience will be very helpful down the road. Read Day Bang and practice rambling about props. Practice rambling about props with your parents at dinner. The idea is to build an awareness that you can hold a conversation, even if it's about the glass your drinking out of. If you can have a 5 minute conversation about a dinner plate, then you can talk about anything. Begin to explore your immediate area.

Find out which bars, stores, restaurants are the best and most frequented by attractive women. See what wine and beer tastings are in your area. See if there are any historic places in your area, learn about your home town and explore new towns and see if any gems exist (for example, I walked around a small but upscale town near my area and discovered a pretty cool distillery with a whiskey tasting, live music, and learned they had a very cool apple pie whiskey that would make a great gift or have on hand).

After reading the sidebar and RP stuff read some John McPhee to get a taste of what great non-fiction is like, how interesting it can be, and what curiosity should look like. You need to be more curious about life if you are going to override anxiety and gain experience. Also, it sounds like you need to do a lot of journaling to discover what's bothering you so much and giving you the anxiety and why you care so much about others' judgement. You definitely lack inner-game.

ChadTheWaiter100 · 2019-03-21T14:10:45+00:00

Start by understanding that you feel insecure because you’re worried about what people think. In reality- no one gives a fuck. If you fall on your ass people will laugh at you so hard! For like 5 seconds and then they’re back to whatever else they’re doing. It’s not that big of a deal.

So stop giving a fuck about that. Because no one else does.

beatthehaze · 2019-03-21T14:53:44+00:00

School is the exact opposite of experience. Don’t do it unless you know the exact job it will help you achieve.

Try retail or management positions. Plenty of tech jobs too, which pay way more than $12/hr

barragan14 · 2019-07-26T16:10:45+00:00

Go do something outgoing, such as sports and activities. Alternatively, you could make a huge lifestyle change by joining the military or working at a oil rig. You could also become a missionary and travel the world helping the less fortunate, or teach English in Europe or Asia. Doing something meaningful and sharing those experiences with others will give you purpose, which will take care of your life experience problem. People see that purpose in you and naturally will be attracted to you as a bonus.

Title	Zero experience in life? How do I fix it?
Author	SOLODOLOGUY
Upvotes	6
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Date	March 21, 2019 1:43 AM UTC (7 years ago)
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