I want to talk about something that a lot of people fail to do when they got the girl and are trying to keep it. And something that is part of a strong inner game problem, but gives out a lot in your outer game. It's trying too hard. Being an overly nice guy. Being clingy. Whatever you want to call it.

I want to bring up a mix of my past experiences, and a very recent one from someone I know. There's that question that I've already heard a lot before:

  

Why do the girls that I'm not that into stick around, and the ones I really like don't?

Well, it's actually pretty simple: You are clingy, you are more willing to accept shit that you shouldn't. This week, a guy told me what her girl said:

"You're accepting so much bullshit. You should not accept all this from me and apologize when I get mad for stupids things".

He was a bit in crisis mode when he told me that. So I asked him;

-Do you like being treated like shit?
-Of course not...
-Then why do you accept that?
-Because I really like her, b1ood. I don't want to be in fights with her, I wanna have something nice, ya know.
-Which image do you think you're giving right now? Is this a man that's living fully, in pursue of his true purpose, regardless of the obstacles he might face?

He basically got it, called her out on her bullshit firmly and basically ignored her for just a couple of hours. Guess what? Yeah of course you know what's coming. Girl comes back running, craving for the validation/attention/approval, whatever you wanna call it. He is back in the seat he should always have had: the one of a man who is free, cares for her woman but deserves and will require full respect.