~ archived since 2018 ~
Popular
Other
[deleted]
[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points 3 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
Have your interactions with her been friendly or strictly business? Has she given you any indication that she might be interested in you? Eye contact, smiling, flirting, etc ?
[–]VegeterianOsu 1 point2 points3 points 3 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
I've only seen her 2 times, once she was at the register and had trouble looking me in the eyes, I just had a fresh haircut and clean shaven so I think my looks made her anxious to hold eye contact, the other she was having a smoke with another so I didn't wanna intrude in their conversation. So I can't say as to whether she has any significant opinion of me.
Maybe I should wait for a couple more interactions to see if she shows any signs.
As for the first where she couldn't look into my eyes, I may have looked at that too deeply and she was just doing her job.
But what's your opinion, can I engage now or wait to see for signs?
[–][deleted] 2 points3 points4 points 3 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
She hasn’t given you anything to work with. Essentially it’s like a cold approach where you’re just hitting on her and the outcome isn’t necessarily going to be in your favor. I would really try to strike up a conversation first. Compliment something about her, something completely innocuous. See what her reaction is and then proceed. It’s very hard to hit on women in the service industry because their job is to be nice to the customer. You have to be respectful of her work environment and how you proceed but I would try to visit her store once a day and just be friendly and nice and see if you can slowly build rapport with her over time. Give her a chance to see you on a regular basis. If you want my personal story I’ll share it with you. Similar situation with a server/ bartender.
[–]Diet_Wraith 1 point2 points3 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Hey there! I was actually about to make a post like this with a similar set up and I just saw your comment. Could you share your story please?
For me, I can elaborate more if you'd like, but there's this one girl at a local smoothie place... She makes a stupid amount of eye contact and seemingly tries to get my attention since she usually works back making the drinks vs register. I kind of tested this because at first I think I accidentally flirted with her and thought I might’ve embarrassed her and thought she was just thinking “ugh, this guy,” but last week I went in for a rush because I had somewhere to be, and didn’t look at her directly, but basically the whole time I was ordering from someone else she was kind of peering over that persons shoulder looking at me from the back. Then I went in this week and she was working the register – should’ve seen her face when I walked in I tell you. She was helping another customer off to the side, and after she noticed me, like every other sentence she tossed glances at me with a smile and straightened her posture. Legitimately one of the cutest interactions I’ve had, like ever.
There’s usually enough time for pleasantries, but people come in a lot ‘cause it is hot these days and that doesn’t give me much conversational time. And I don’t want to embarrass her in front of coworkers… Since she’s usually the one that hands me my drink, I was thinking of giving her a note the next time? With a joke, an invitation, and a number. Thoughts on that?
I know giving your number is like – a terrible move 9 times out of 10, but beyond trying to crack a joke about using her number for the rewards program the next time she’s at the register, I’ve got no idea how to approach this, lol.
Anyhow, I am really curious to hear your story if you'd like to share!
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago* (0 children) | Copy Link
First off, in your circumstances I would definitely drop her a note with your number and say something about how you really find her attractive but you don’t want to bother her at work. Here’s my number and hopefully we can chat. I would say you have a solid chance of hearing from her based on what you described.
My situation was kind of a mind f*ck. There’s a female server/ bartender and I could sense there was a vibe between us. She always made time to talk to me regardless of how busy she was. I would drop into this place weekly and over the course of months I could sense this attraction building and our conversations becoming a little more personal. One day she’s bartending and she casually asked me about something related to her car and if I could fix it ( insanely simple) I said sure, no problem and she grabbed my phone and immediately starts putting her number in it. The way I read this was that in no way did this have anything to do with her car. I knew instinctively that she wanted me to have her number. I waited a day and I sent her a text and…….. nothing. She never responded. Now, this was months ago and I still see her about once a week, or every other week and we’re still extremely friendly and I never brought up her unanswered text. We still have these conversations that almost seem like a real “couple” would have.
Now Wtf happened and what’s her trip?? I have no idea.
[–]CocoBabeNYC 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Shower her with compliments. Go to her checkout line and say, "you know, your coworker there checks people out faster, but I like the view from this check out line much better." Or tell her "you know, I see a lot of attractive women who work in your store (or who shop there), but when you come around I can't take my eyes off of you".
[–]VegeterianOsu 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
There's only 1 register so can't really say the first and for the second I think that may be a tad bit too direct without a couple more interactions first to determine if she has a positive opinion of me
© TheRedArchive 2026. All rights reserved.created by /u/dream-hunter
[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points (4 children) | Copy Link
[–]VegeterianOsu 1 point2 points3 points (3 children) | Copy Link
[–][deleted] 2 points3 points4 points (2 children) | Copy Link
[–]Diet_Wraith 1 point2 points3 points (1 child) | Copy Link
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]CocoBabeNYC 0 points1 point2 points (1 child) | Copy Link
[–]VegeterianOsu 0 points1 point2 points (0 children) | Copy Link