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[–]norwegiandoggo 4 points5 points6 points 4 years ago* (9 children) | Copy Link
Never get hung up on a girl who is not your girlfriend. You already made this mistake based on how you write about her.
Focus on learning skills with women (plural) rather than a one-shot-one-kill approach with one woman. When you only hit on one woman you will not improve your skills. That's like throwing your basketball one time and expect to get better at basketball.
You need to reduce your worries about coming across as creepy or annoying. Give less of a fuck about that. If you want to do well with women, you will need to hit on women and take chances. Unfortunately, a LOT of those women will find you creepy or annoying. That's part of the game, because a lot of women will not be interested in you. Only a few of them will be interested. You might as well get used to being creepy at times.
It's not smart to practice your skills with women within your social circle where the consequences of failing are so high. If you fail with this girl, then you lose your chance with pretty much any girl in your high school that hears about your creepy annoying approach. It's better to look for women outside your school to practice your skills so that you don't have as many consequences to deal with once you mess things up.
If you're going to hit on a woman in your school, work, or someone who is in your social circle. Then you have to be careful, and know that she considers you cool and shows you at least some indications she's interested. In this case, has she given you any signs she likes you romantically? Absolutely not. So that means, probably better to not hit on her because in all likelihood she's not interested. If she was interested she would most likely have been a lot more enthusiastic in texting with you when you messaged her about her poem.
Social status matters. Are you one the coolest kids in your class? If not, your social status is low, and your chances with women at your school are going to be low as well
[–]Glass-Pain77 4 years ago [recovered] (8 children) | Copy Link
Thanks for the advice dude, that's actually a lot. I don't have to worry about girls in high school hearing about my fail since we only have 3 months of high school left and mostly no-one knows me.
Unfortunately, about the last piece of advice, yeah, I don't have much of a chance. My social status is low, while she is pretty known around the school.
[–]norwegiandoggo 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (7 children) | Copy Link
If it's just 3 months left. Take your chance no? In that case the consequences of failing are much lower so I recommend you simply ask her out on a date. Just be like "hey, do you want to go on a date sometime?" Nothing creepy about that. But of course she may still find it creepy because girls are weird. You'll find out what happens. Best of luck!
[–]Glass-Pain77 4 years ago [recovered] (6 children) | Copy Link
Sorry if I'm dumb (and sorry if I apologise to much, as absurde as this is), but should I just message her directly to go on a date? I feel there should be a bare minimum of build up before that, to warm up a beat, you know? Asking for a date right now would probably be an instant loss, because well, who goes on a date like that?
And if I message her, what do I say? Her birthday passed so I can't say nothing about it and her poems aren't on her account anymore. Should I tell her she's beautiful? That's pretty superficial I guess. Should I press like to every content she puts on so I can hint to that? I don't know what got in me, but I want to do this right. Thanks for the additional advice.
[–]norwegiandoggo 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
You already messaged her about her poem..just ask her out on a date. You don't need anything else. And definitely DON'T call her beautiful. If she is, she already knows it because everyone has told her that 1000 times before
[–]Glass-Pain77 4 years ago [recovered] (4 children) | Copy Link
True about her beauty, but I feel I'm coming out of nowhere. I complimented her about the poem 4 months ago, why ask her out 4 months later? I may ve overthinking.
[–]norwegiandoggo 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
You can send her a "test" message first that's just like "hey, how is it going Jenny, hope all is well with you". If she responds enthusiastically then you can ask her out on a date. If she doesn't respond, or gives a lame response. Then you know she's not interested and you can move on
[–]Glass-Pain77 4 years ago [recovered] (2 children) | Copy Link
Man thank you for your advice and all you said and I don't mean to deflect every help you want to give me, but I am nowhere in that position to ask her out like that. Or maybe you're right and I'm just too anxious, maybe I am just excusing myself, smh.
[–]nizzy977 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Loll im the the same position as you OP. Senior, 3 months left, kinda like a girl. Lets hope it work out for the both of us. If not, no worries, got plenty of life ahead of us.
[–]norwegiandoggo 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
When you like a girl you should ask her out as soon as possible. The longer you wait the worse it is for your anxiety. And the lower your chances that she will say yes.
[–]zenova123 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Send the message and let her decide if its creepy or not. If so, oh well but if not hey, bonus!
You wont know if its creepy unless you ask her directly anyway, so you'd be assuming that no reply means your being a creep but it isnt always necessarily so. You could not get a reply and be perfectly "uncreepy".
But you fail at 100% of chances you don't attempt right? Its all a game and experience for you as your a young man anyway. So go for it and see where your adventure takes you.
Worst comes to the worst, whats being a little creepy anyway? Guys full on dick pic message ladies on dating sites BEFORE the hello message goes in lol... I'd say your good if your not taking a dick pic to send as we speak lmao.
[–]Glass-Pain77 4 years ago [recovered] (1 child) | Copy Link
I won't send to someone face pics without consent, let alone dick pics.
[–]zenova123 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I'd say your good to go then my friend.
Online is all just numbers and odds wether it goes well or not really. Especially as women get a shit ton of messages usually so they have loads to choose from / many distractions that could make them become bored of your conversation etc...
But there is also alot of damaged people online dating too, so the ones you might think you lost out on may well be good riddance if you were to look down the time line should you of carried on talking lol.
The ease of online dating sites mean it can be a very hot and cold process, it makes virtual dating so easy it can be picked up and dropped so fast, so dont be too disheartened if this particular lady doesnt warm to you bro
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