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Howard_Roark_444 · 2021-02-18T16:58:56+00:00

Nope. I haven't dated in about 2 years and it's been great. I had one or two hook-ups but I could have gone without. I spend all my time making myself better and doing exactly what I want. I save all of my money and only spend it on the things I value. If I could go back in time, I'd tell my teenage self not to focus so much on chasing women, rather chasing goals.

DramaticSentence4901 · 2021-02-18T19:08:00+00:00

The issue is some people choose partners based off looks and attractiveness as opposed to personality/shared interest/and friendship compatibility. Not to say you have to marry someone ugly but what happens when you choose a partner based off lust is you get used to them/the sex (post honeymoon phase) so the lust fizzles out and then there is nothing left that connects you two. You have to actually mesh really well on a friendship level in order to have a lasting relationship. Therefore, once that lust fizzles out, you still have a strong genuine friendship that keeps you connected. When choosing a partner think to yourself “If this chick was an ugly dude with her same personality, would I even be friends with this person? Or do I only like her because she’s hot and has an okay personality?”. But if y’all are talking up storms & are laughing non-stop (to non-sex related topics) then there’s a good chance you’d be friends with this girl even if she was unattractive... so once you throw physical attraction in, bam... good long term partner candidate!

IcarusBane1 · 2021-02-18T16:40:54+00:00

Most guys don’t have a abundant sex life because this day and age it is hard to do so for reasons you’ve stated. For me it’s my prophecy as clique as it sounds. Playing the game means a lot of shit, stress, flakes, rejection, etc. If you handle the heat in the streets you definitely ain’t getting no action in the sheets...not as much as you’d like anyways

Jack0fDiamonds · 2021-02-18T18:44:50+00:00

It is work. I've been on so many dates I'm an expert at first dates.

You can't let rejection matter-it will destroy you. You have to have confidence and lose like a champ. Getting rejection is good. It saves you money and time.

You need to figure out how to play the game smarter. You need to do what works for you. Mastering the game here is discovering what techniques work for you not becoming a sex God.

2021-02-18T22:54:27+00:00

Beginner's hell is a thing. Even intermediate and advanced struggle from time to time too. Possible to get out of it to achieve S.M.A.R.T Goals. One's mindset is important to accomplishing anything in life.

SeparatePhone5 · 2021-02-18T16:56:52+00:00

You’ve had sex with a few dozen women and some semi serious relationships.

What are your expectations? This post looks like unnecessary complaining.

apollor3d · 2021-02-18T16:44:38+00:00

It really doesn't seem like it anymore, just an endless cycle of disappointment and heartbreak. I've tried but can't seem to get anywhere myself, but I always put my mental health first before something I'm not sure is worth it.

Mocool17 · 2021-02-18T18:56:46+00:00

That is a very weird question. If you’re like any other man, you’ve probably intentionally or otherwise hurt a good woman’s feelings, right? So don’t you think you are causing someone else the same pain you are experiencing? My suggestion or 2c is there’s no right or wrong thing here. Even if someone intentionally does something to hurt you, just ignore them, you will never want to be with someone like that anyway. In fact I’d suggest tell them to their face thanks for being honest and move on. And do the same when you reject someone, tell them upfront and afterwards the reasons why and provide them a closure. It’ll make you feel better. Best wishes.

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