Difficulty having an actually conversation with a girl and would like some advice

moontripper1246 · 2017-07-13T23:01:56+00:00

So like.....the problem here is that YOU are getting bored with what your talking about. The simple solution to this is: start talking about what you wanna talk about. This is essentially self amusement. If you don't know what that is or how to do that (which would be understandable, not judging you here, your new an young) go into youtube and type in "Self Amusement RSD". And read this for the rest of your life.

Uhm.....so watch this

I feel as if the conversation is quite boring or I feel as if I have said something stupid and from there I end up exiting the conversation with a "goodbye, enjoy your day" without getting a phone number.

This is all in your head. You feel like you aren't doing enough to attract her and to avoid making a bigger move and getting snubbed by her, you eject on your own telling yourself she didn't like you in the first place. She could very well like you, and be thinking things like "oh he's fun and cute....i hope he grabs my number". She could even just be feeling that on an emotional level. the point is, you don't really know, your just assuming she isn't into you. Stop it. Start assuming she's into you. Start forcing yourself to think things like "oh god that girl over there is so bored, an she's way too shy to com sup and ask for my number I feel so bad for her, lemme help her with that lol". Seriously, you need to train your mind to expect women to like you. Your just shooting yourself in the foot otherwise.

So the question I have is is there someway I can make my conversations a much more interesting or attractive to a girl that I like?

Well, first tho sis different from the problem you described a second ago. Before it was that YOU felt you were being boring and eject from the set without letting the girl reject you. Now your taking it a step further and assuming again that you need to keep her more entertained and engaged. For all I know you could be right, but the way your phrasing this still reveals that you don't feel like you deserve whoever your walking up on. Serioulsy man, focus on growing stronger internals/confidence.

But the technicals: Cold read her. Play a game with her. Tease her about something she's said or done. Have standards and then tease her when she fails those standards/reward her when she passes. Use more physical contact. When you say high to her try spin handshaking her talking her how beautiful she is. When you ask her what she's doing/where she's going cut her off and say "on a short walk with me Love ;)"...shit like that.

I'm rambling so much in this post.....

king_in-yellow · 2017-07-13T22:08:21+00:00

you have to become more interesting. you have any hobbies or skills? you good at anything?

Methaxetamine · 2017-07-13T22:35:35+00:00

Good job OP! Look at how she dresses and compliment her and ask her interests.

Title	Difficulty having an actually conversation with a girl and would like some advice
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Date	July 13, 2017 10:07 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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