So after reading a bunch on this subreddit and attempting to make a change in my life I went out with some friends last night. Had fun and a bar getting drinks with no intention of getting girls, but to enjoy myself.

One of the girls in the friend group was real cute so I started talking to her. She seemed real interested because she held my hand longer than usual and gave strong eye contact; she actually didn’t let go after the handshake, I was the one that released after 10 seconds.

Fast forward passed the dancing and more drinks, I’m talking to this girl by a table and we’re vibing. She’s on a high chair and i’m on a smaller chair right beside her. Every time I said something to her I made sure to have some sort of physical touch whether it was her arm or her leg, she never pulled away or reacted from any of that.

I told her that I drove here and i’m too drunk to drive and she immediately said “no don’t, just cab back with me and i’ll drive you tomorrow.” I knew I was golden at that point.

Here where it goes downhill. So a group of friends (guys and girls) come and start talking to her and I wasn’t included so I turned to my friends who were on my other side and started talking to them so I don’t get bored. She drifts off with the other group and I said to myself alright that’s fine i’ll see you after. I go dance with friends and come back and there’s another guy with her. I thought it would be needy to jump in and try something so I let them do their thing.

I try to keep her within vision for the night but the guy never left. So after an hour of them talking I said fuck it and went up to her. It was 30 minutes before close and I asked her “hey i’m leaving in 20 minutes, what’s your plans?” And she replied “i’ll go outside with when my friends are leaving” So I said “alright i’ll see you outside then” This whole interaction seemed a little awkward to me and I don’t know if she felt it too.

She ended up staying with that guy after the bar closed and I saw them walk off together. It also seemed a bit awkward outside too, but maybe that’s my self conscious ass. I still kept my cool around my friends and had a good time, but man...

Never have I been so bummed.

Any advice and tips on what I could do better or where I may have messed up?

Edit: I knew this girl from high school but she didn’t know me. I can find her on ig and follow her if that’s a good idea at all.