I'm 21 and I've been reading seddit for a few months now. I have completely no experience in the dating scene. So there's this girl I approached many years ago and we've texted and gone out a few times but she had a boyfriend then. Then I hit her up like a few days ago to see what's up right and she tells me that she's good and she's recently broken up with her boyfriend so I thought this probably be a good time to ask her out. So my friend drops me at her place and she asks me to drive her car because she's tired. Then we head to a cafe to get some coffee and just chill yknow but we spend like 20 minutes just driving around trying to find some parking. Then we decided to go somewhere else back near her place cause parking at this particular place on a Friday night was just impossible. From the moment I met her till we reached the restaurant, we were just catching up and really hitting it off conversation wise. I started kino from the start with a hug but we were already comfortable with each other's touch but I couldn't get more intimate with her? After we left the restaurant, I told her I didnt wanna rush back so we just chilled outside her car. So then I got closer while I was talking to her and I hold her two hands for a lil bit then she pulls away. We continue talking for a lil bit more then we get into the car and I drove back to my place. I feel like I never lost her attention throughout the night but I never really felt the physical attraction?? We'll probably go out a few more times but how do I escalate without being any more obvious? I'm inexperienced so I don't know what to do cause I'm scared I'd come off as needy and that would push her away instead pulling her. But at the same time, I wanna know where this could lead to. I don't wanna invest emotions even though I know I shouldn't but I just cant help it. Will go out with her a lot more but I don't wanna just remain as her friend. My question to my fellow sedditors are how do I assess what she wants from this?