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[–]Sheol_ofAbaddon 0 points1 point2 points 13 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
There are many words that get bad raps. Manipulation is one of them. First realize that whatever interaction you have with another human being is "manipulation". There is no other form of human interaction.
Second, there's difference between bad manipulation and good manipulation. Good manipulation is like what you do with your friends. You enjoy each other's company and make each other feel happy. You make each other stronger, better people.
[–]Dynasty2201 0 points1 point2 points 13 years ago* (0 children) | Copy Link
A lack of kino doesnt mean she wont want to see you again. Kino is a method, not a requirement.
And her agreeing to see you again AND making sure it's easier for you to make the trip suggests she DOES want to see you again. So you've done nothing wrong, just make sure you crank it up the next time you see her, otherwise, welcome to the friend zone.
My very first girlfriend; the first kino we actually had at all, was at midnight on New Year's (not this one. This was years ago). Cheesy as hell, but we were all stood around in a circle singing (well, not really as I didnt know the words) Old Langs..whatever it is.
Did the whole hugging everyone thing, she practically made a bee line for me, she slowly hugged me and we both stood there, me stroking her back with my thumb (if that makes sense) and she wouldnt let go. Atleast 30 seconds of hugging.
For context; we had been MSNing each other almost every day for about 2 months before. We went to the same school but our classes were at different times so we rarely saw each other (everyone can go home after the classes in the UK in year 12 and 13, so you can have a class at 9, go home afterward and come back for the afternoon one). She was always saying how sweet and nice I am, she's never had a boyfriend before as she was KIND of nerdy. Probably an HB 6 if I'm honest.
It was a single moment of release of emotion in one..physical connection.
2 hours later, we're on the floor covered in one blanket, noses practically touching in the darkness. I knew I was in with a shot as she walked over and lay next to me as opposed to me going to her.
I actually went to kiss her on the nose, a quick peck, and she instantly kissed me. Longest makeout I've ever had.
Got a text from her the next day (I had to work so left while she was still asleep, as with almoste everyone else in the house) around lunch time, simply saying ''Youre an amazing kisser.''
And who messed it up? Me. I backed out due to being a pussy, never having a girlfriend before. I wussed out. Didnt kiss her again, didnt date, nothing.
Regretted it ever since as we could easily, infact I'm 100% sure, still be together to this day after around 6 years.
So yeah, kino isnt always a requirement. So dont feel bad about not doing it. It's all situationally dependant.
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