Hey, so I was summoned here to tell you guys about my story that occurred today. So last week I was hanging with my friend, let's call him John. We were on campus and I saw this girl, she was pretty enough to be intimidating, but I bit the bullet and went over to talk to her. As I make it there, right in front of her, I trip, but I didn't let that deter me. Then I just asked her about her phone and we talked. And talked. And talked. After 30ish min past my friend John (he also participated in the conversation) asked if we knew each other, funny thing is I didn't even know her name. For the sake of the story, let's call her Steph. After more talking and jokes, we parted ways and I asked for a number and got it. Easy. I text her the next day saying, "I'll be with my friends at this time if you wanna hang then come on". No reply. Oh well, at least I talked to her.

Next week comes along, I'm in the same spot, and she shows up again, and she seems really happy to see me. Apparently she dropped her phone in the toilet and lost my number. First thing she does is ask for it. We end up talking again and she mentions having trouble with geology so I offer to help out. We flirt on the way to the library, and she laughed at my jokes, always a plus. Anywho, I'm teaching her things she's having trouble with until she understands, she blushes whenever we touch, or whenever she catches me checking her out. At one point, I was pretty obvious about it. We were talking face to face and I eyed her up and down (No fucking shame), and continued talking like nothing happened. I have never seen a girl blush and smile like she did at that moment. So I leave with positive thoughts thinking it's time to seal the deal.

The Next day, I'm hanging out with friends and I meet another girl named Mary. Mary is a friend of my other girl best friend (let's call her Jane). Jane tells me that Mary is a very very selective person, won't give out her number to any random dude, only dates white guys etc etc. All I say is "OK Jane, we'll see" We meet, and well she's pretty as hell, definitely a 9/10. I definitely had no clue what to say or do. After a while, the ice breaks, I get her to laugh pretty easily, and all I really do is speak my mind. We all continue talk in a group for maybe 5 min and she says that she needs help with biology. Jane, awesome ass wingman, tells Mary that I'm really good with biology, Mary immediately gives me her number. I thought that was pretty funny haha. Soon Mary leaves, and I leave to go tutor Steph. I tutor her, but it's more of us just talking than me tutoring. We talked about dancing, singing, tv, what we do for fun etc. for a good while. At one point she mentions her over-protective brother, and I say I guess "I'll have to be careful with him then huh?" She covered her face to hide the fact that she was blushing and said "Yea, I guess so" with a smile. I think everything is going well, so I walk her to class and say, "I like you, and I want to talk you out." So I tell her tomorrow, we'll do something, and she agrees.

The next day, I text Steph when I'm available. On a side note, this is the first legit date I'd be having since 10th grade in high school, I'm a sophomore in college now. So I was pretty fucking nervous. I meet up with Mary to teach her Bio. I checked my phone whenever it vibrated, but no replies from Steph. She finally replies sometime a while later(I think 2-3 hours ?), basically flaking, and not rescheduling. Oh well, at least now I know where I stand with her. I put my phone down and focus on Mary. We study bio from 11-1ish and during this time I catch her checking me out a couple times. At 1 o' clock, I said we should take a break, and she said she wanted to go outdoors. So basically I took her out on the date I had planned for Steph. We walked to the park and talked, walked around the park to talk, walked to get some ice cream and talked, got some food and talked, went back to the university and talked. We talked about sooo much, driving, sex, food, past lives, lost virginities, failed relationships, how we live life, music we love etc. There was never a lull in the conversation. Also during this time we flirted, not too heavy, just playful banter. One thing that did stick out though, was at some point she said I was "really smart" and that she wanted to take me home to be her private tutor. I told her, "as long as you feed me and fuck me, I'll be there 25/8". She agreed and said, "Sure, but I like to fuck 4 times a week. So if you can handle that let's do it" On our walk back I was more adventurous and forcing her out of her comfort zone while holding her hand. Doing things like crossing the street when the red hand is up, etc. When we get to the school we hang out in the student center area. We flirt some more, we go through each others phones. Laughing at embarrassing selfies of ourselves, commenting our more racy pics. We then go to class and I hug her goodbye, as we part ways I yell "stop staring at my ass, so I can stare at yours!" She giggled and left. Ever since she left...at like 6 we've been texting ever since.

TL; DR Rejection ain't shit unless you make it shit. Today I got rejected, and today was one of the best days this month. Ended up going on a pseudo-date with a girl that I probably had no chance with, and hit it off very well. We've been since 6 hours ago and we'll meet again tomorrow. In the end, 10/10 would love to get rejected again.

So I've never done this before but I'll give some advice

  • Learn body language shits hella important.

  • Always be positive. Sadness ain't sexy - I used to be depressed and I hated doing anything different. That was 6 months ago. Now I am very well off and glad I stuck with it.

  • Don't be afraid to be outspoken. I'm very shy, and I still am, but I force myself to talk to 3 girls a day. Either talk about her shoes or her dress, anything.

  • Dress for the kind of girls you want to date. If you wanna date a model, better not be walking around wearing socks, sandals, too-big shorts, and a wrinkled t-shirt. 9/10 it won't fucking work.

  • Be confident, but not cocky. Don't walk into a room saying you're sexy. Let your personality, and your appearance say that for you.

  • It isn't easy. I have approached many girls, trust me it doesn't get easier. I'm still afraid, my heart still races, but I love the feeling. It's like riding a roller coaster, I'm scared of heights, but I swear I will make that roller coaster my bitch.

  • Don't be afraid https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=u2YJYTjmnk8 That video right there gave me a kick in the ass. Why be afraid of a girl that you never met? Because she'll reject you? Well let her do that, you don't do that for her. Also, don't fuck yourself up with not taking the initiative. Are you two getting along well? Ask her out on a date. Dates going well and the flirting has been reciprocated? Fucking kiss her then.

  • Find something, a quote, a song etc that sticks to you I know I may get shit, but I live by 3 main thoughts. "Fear is only your imagination trying to fuck up your happiness. Fuck fear." "If I have a problem and I can't fix, stop giving a fuck about it. If I have a problem and I can fix it, I should stop being a pussy and fucking fix it" I also might get some shit for this, but every morning, I sing the "Arthur" Theme song. Why? Cause that shit's positive as fuck. Makes me ready to take on any challenge cause at the end of the day, your problems are only as big as you make them.