First post here.

Coming off of a relationship and have been struggling to get back into the casual hookup scene. Was stuck trying for one girl for way too long, and finally went for another girl tonight.

Tonight's set: Was pissed about Germany losing in the Eurocup, but decided to get all of my energy focused on doing something fun. Funny how something as stupid as sports motivates you sometimes. Went out to a few different bars to meet up with people, ended up running into a girl who was back in town. Biggest thing from this was I didn't stress or worry about escalating or anything, I just let it go but directed it how I wanted. Got into some fun dancing which turned into a makeout in the back corner of the club. Unfortunately her friend stole her before we could head home, but I'm good with cutting my dry streak.

Two things I think were important to take from this. First, don't be afraid of being direct. For some reason this was a huge hurdle for me. Used to being the chump and not trying to push boundaries, but that's what it takes to get it done.

Second thing, don't get held up on any one girl. Yeah, if you like someone, make an effort to go for it and make it happen. But don't limit yourself because of them and don't label them as 'special' until they prove it to you. I was held up trying on this unbelievably cute and shy girl and shut out all of my other options. Tonight I finally said fuck it, either I'm doing something wrong or she's not into it, but either way roll past that shit. Done and done, not adverse to still trying for her but not nearly as restricted as I felt. Ended up having a liberating good time.