Read the Game a few years back (I'm 23yo now). Let my inner game go to waste, convinced myself seduction was not for me because why would it be? (Everyone loves self esteem right)

Anyway, fast forward to present day spent a fair bit of time single. Got into an ok but ultimately unhealthy relationship, realised i needed to change and found Seddit.

FR - Worked on inner game big time, still am doing. Then read stuff on here which was awesome. Got to work, new girl started about a month ago, I'd not worked with her since I've been away etc.

Anyway, I find this girl attractive. Usually I'd friendzone HER preemptively to avoid rejection. This time was different I grew some balls, trusted what I read and persevered. Worried that I'd end up portraying a fake image of myself to seduce, but i didn't. In the words of a post I read the other day "just say what you feel like, you'll soon learn what works and what doesn't". Love it. Anyway, here it is

  1. Eye contact: Made sure I gave plenty. Got a bit self conscious but stayed with it. I could feel my confidence rise, becane more comfortable and my god she didn't stop talking! I felt like she was hooked, told me her life story and kept asking me questions.

  2. Listen: I've always been told I'm a good listener, proud of it too but I always equated it to being friendzoned/AFC territory. This time was different I felt interested, engaged, heard some cool stories. Because I decided to listen without thinking "This is going to friendzone me".

  3. Teasing, Negs: Felt weird with this one but it really opened up the conversation. She talked about something nerdy (im a bit too) and said a few things that usually I'd just accept and be like "ok, ok, next bit of info" but I thought fuck it, lets have a laugh. Yeah I'll gently tease you, I'll joke about myself too instead of thinking I'm some sort of wise old sage.

  4. Kino: This is what got me, still working on it but I couldnt believe it, I went from ZERO time spent with this girl to her rubbing my back at work, getting in my personal space, finding excuses to touch me (albeit lightly) but i know its a big thing because before i'd have walls up. No one touches me haha, I must have a "fuck off look". There was even a bit of innuendo, I toned it down a bit though because I was at work but man, I don't know what to think.

Assume Attraction: This was odd but liberating. It made me stand up straight, speak clear and say what I think. Worried this would make me look arrogant but then thought, I hate that trait in others and I strive to not be like that. Why should confidence equate to an ego problem? It was another thing I learnt about myself, too much of a Nice Guy.

Lastly, any input from you guys would be great. I was worried at one point she was just being friendly but thats probs insecurity creeping in.

TL;DR Read seddit for a bit, grew some balls, made some moves, feel better for it.

Cheers!