Setting: Sunday night, Chill bar/restaurant.

My first FR, and first solo effort in the field.

I walk in to a small bar to find all seats taken, except for one awkward spot at the end of the room against the wall. I grab a drink and take a seat. As I am solo, I feel like / look like a bit of a loner at this point.

..But I figure who cares, I will sit here until someone interesting appears and make some approaches. A two set of HB8's return to the bar. The one nearest to me opens ME and asks me to move closer. I neg them about their shitty rendition of the classic 90's hiphop song ‘gangsters paradise’. We bust (horribly executed) moves to their wannabe hiphop. Honestly they should never rap. Ever again. Fortunately my ridiculous moves coupled w/ enthusiasm for their random white girl singing leads to them inviting me to another bar which I declined with the most pathetic reasoning EVER in the history of pickup. "I would but I want to go to bed soon". FML. Off the back of this monumental fuck up, I order another drink.

5 minutes passes.

10 minutes passes.

I can't believe I just said that! Recalibrate, get back in state. All this time I casually have noticed an elegantly dressed HB8 in a yellow dress. She seems to know the bar tender also, so I ask the bar tender if I can trust the HB8, who is within obvious earshot of this question.

I don’t think about it, just act. I move around the bar, leave my drink with the girl while asking her to not roofie me while I step out to the restroom, and return minutes later.

…..To find massive IOI's from hb8! She is playing with her necklace, bracelets, hair twirling etc. How did this happen! I explain that I am at the bar tonight because my unit block is on fire (true story), and that I was seeking shelter.

Unfortunately, her positioning at the bar is tightly wedged between other people. Should I have somehow extracted her from this location? If so, how? Regardless, the positive conversation and the fact that she is gorgeous snapped me into state.

…So I decide to bounce. Again! WTF! Hit and run is NOT how you close Yupbzr. I do expect to see her again though, and I have practically backturned on her twice, with some flirty conversation in between. I hope to get it right the next time I see her as that 99% will happen.

I move to a different part of the bar to fix up my bill. Open some cougars with some nonsense comments about their drinking habits. To my amazement, they respond with massive IOI’s as well – hair pulling, laughing at nothing, telling me we should order another bottle of wine. I tell them I am going home to bed.

All in all, first FR. I was in a long term committed relationship, never really knowing how this stuff works. Proud of getting out solo and just going for it, but disappointed about ‘stage fright’ in the heat of the moment. If only I had better positioning with the HB8 in the yellow dress, I’m pretty sure something good could have happened there.

Also, thank you. I would not have gone out and even attempted this if it weren’t for Seddit. I approached glamours tonight – intimidated - and had positive encounters. TofuTofu in particular, you blew my head off with your FR’s; leading me to say F$#! it and just go for it.

TLDR; chanced it at 10pm on a Sunday. Reminded to truly develop a ‘no fear of loss’ attitude. Thanks Seddit.