Hello,

I noticed that I struggle with two issue, frame control and kino escalation.

First one. In text game I manage to maintain the frame mostly. Even though I sense a slow switch as time goes by where I start asking more question and getting less quality answer. And after a while it is basically back to me chasing....

The greatest challenge is irl date or contact, as soon as the interaction starts I enter a sort of high, a completely different state of mind. My brain just stop working (!!) and while I perceive that I am doing a lot of things wrong I cannot stop at all. There is a thought process in my mind where I am trying to see if I can be with that girl and it come forth in my answers, questions and remarks as needy or not really as the one setting the frame and I therefore completely lose it.

Secondly and probably less important. Kino escalation. I have a mental barrier where I feel like I cannot touch the girl on first dates. Even if the occasion is there I will refrain or feel really nervous which she sense and my frame explode once again.

What are your solutions for this kind of issues? Are you going or did you went through a similar phase?