Hey everyone, i want to pick your brain to see if you can provide me to a problem i am having.

After getting dumped at the beginning of the year i decided that i wanted to start working on myself and applying all that i have been reading over the past god knows how long.

I truly think my external game is on a very good level; i am very fit, have a solid career at 26, have my own place (with a roommate), car, dress well, and my body language is above average because i have consciously worked towards it and going to the gym often naturally helps. At the risk of sounding narcissistic i've been told by many women i've been on dates with or seen that i am handsome. I consider myself balanced between an introvert and extrovert with more and more of the balance going towards the extrovert side. I feel comfortable enough around strangers, in events and crowded places and really do want to meet new women and have a steady sex/dating life.

The above is just to give a very quick snapshot to answer some questions people might have. Now the issue(s):

  1. I don't approach enough- To fix this i started doing day game very recently. I get nervous doing it but once the first approach is done it gets easier (duh). Night game is not my thing but it does not prevent me from going out. I am simply not a high energy, loud, rowdy type of guy. Laid-back is more my personality. The main issue:

  2. I give a boyfriend vibe: I feel like i give girls the vibe that i am trying to be their boyfriend first and lover second. While i do want to find a girlfriend i want to connect with them on an emotional, intellectual, and sexual level first before going further. How do i do this? Any thoughts aside from what i listed.

Thank everyone!