When you see that pretty girl for the first time, what is your goal? For the majority of guys 1 of 2 thought processes is plausible

-"Damn! She's Sexy, I'd just like to get my lollipop in that hot mess." (Sex) -"Wow! She's beautiful, I'd just like to tell her how lovely she is; we're meant for each other." (Love)

If you've been on seddit long enough or are familiar with the seduction community at a reasonable length, I doubt it is necessary to point out that those methods of thinking are unproductive.

Women want "Men of Value" not "scums & suckers" even the lowest caliber of women want someone to add value to their status, not someone to drag them down to a more depressing state.

That being said in the seduction community (as well as in any area of life) remember, last is first; adopt your goals mindset. Her getting into your bedroom or liking you all starts in your head. Your thought process should be that of a seducers, your "goal" should be to "seduce" her; Leave her feeling for you 4X what you feel for her.

Note: (If you think sex, you'll come off as some horny blowbag. If you think Love, you'll come off as a creep.)

"But how _African? I often can't think when I see her." Well! It's as simple as your ABCs Billy.. Reverse Engineering; "Wow! This is so mind-blowing."

Think of it like this, there's lumberman (you), there's a tree in front of him (your target), he wants to use it to build a chair (you want her to satisfy your wants; be it to stick your weirdly shaped bitsy lollipop in her hot mess, or to have a soothing romantic connection) but wait, there's a process lumberman has to go through.. i.e. chopping down the tree (Yes! You too have a process, SEDUCING her.)

"But Wait! _African.. how's that make sense?"

I know I said seduction should be your process and your goal. Why? Let's assume you've read Robert Greene's "The Art of Seduction" ( if you haven't get off seddit NOW! That's step #1, know thyself) then you know, a seducer does not turn the switch on/off.

Or at least let's say you've heard of mystery's tale of the frog and the spider.. Seduction should be your nature; you don't want anything else from that pretty girl but to seduce her, to rape her mind and have her begging for more.

If you still don't get it.. put yourself in her shoes, penetrate her thoughts; this shouldn't be as hard as it sounds. Imagine Robert Downey Jr. in Sherlock Holmes and try to visualize your targets mindset, how they'll react to your cues what they're feeling etc.. again this shouldn't be hard, your brain should be able to pick up body language signals from her and interpret them without effort, you don't need to spend 4-10 yrs at Harvard University studying psychology to access this capacity of your brain, it's inborn.

If you still don't get, well sorry I'm not sorry.. but I'm out of juice. Nite sugar pies and happy seducing.