Some women want to have sex with me which I consider more than them just being nice. However most women think of me as "meh" or too old, or too nice, or having zero chance as long as my better looking friends are any where around. And of course I have family and friends who all think I'm a catch.

It's really difficult to get honest feedback so as to be able to work on the things that have the biggest impact.

Who do you trust to give you actionable feedback?