How do I get over my need for validation?

markyLEpirate · 2015-10-25T16:38:37+00:00

Read No More Mr. Nice Guy

Tetraplasma · 2015-10-25T19:22:18+00:00

That's ultimately the goal that almost every human being struggles with in some way. Since we were young kids, we needed affection and love; basing our worth on how much we are validated by others. It's also thought that this is an evolutionary survival instinct, since we are more likely to survive and reproduce when in groups and accepted by our peers.

However, validation can also come from within; through the right way of thinking and a healthy self-image. This is what you need to fix. Think you're ugly? You're not. Think you're weird? So is everyone else. Think you're stupid? Show me one person who knows everything. Did you make a mistake? The only people who don't make mistakes are the people who never do anything; and that in and of itself is a mistake.

We were all born in ignorance. We are all just trying to figure out this place we are born into. We are all trying to live a happy fulfilled life. We are all just floating in the ocean amidst a storm, looking for something to grab onto and make us feel better.

The trick is, be the island that does not budge, that can provide an emotional haven for others. Do not let what happens around you, or to you, define you. Know who you are. Know your worth. Help show others the good in them; but do it only when it makes sense to do so.

SexySmexxy · 2015-10-25T19:42:03+00:00

Everyone wants validation, so I don't see why you strive to "get over it".

You can only either fulfill it or get it.

It's basically:

Option A : I pretend not to care about failing my Uni course

Option B : I work hard and am proud of showing off my accomplishments.

Literally everybody seeks validation. Why do you think even world famous singers and other artists post daily to their Instagram and Twitter and Snapchat accounts?

They seek validation.

Why else to they post pictures of their cars, girls, money etc on their social media?

Validation.

We all want validation in some form of another.

I'm not saying go out and whore for facebook likes, I'm saying go out and make someone who cares about you proud of you.

Title	How do I get over my need for validation?
Author	ChrisAngWendig
Upvotes	10
Comments	6
Date	October 25, 2015 4:31 PM UTC (10 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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