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[–]ayorke69 8 years ago [recovered] (5 children) | Copy Link
As someone who is on the other end of the age spectrum, I can tell you I find sex to be fairly meaningless, and an intellectual relationship far more important. However, at 19, I was the typical horny guy. If you want to attract women, start loving yourself, look to establish a relationship, a friendship, not sex partner. That will come naturally. If you want meaningless sex, go to a hook up bar, or engage the services of a sex trade worker.
[–]SuchCombination 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
That's the whole point. I've been looking for a girl to settle with. Even with girls I have very similar interests, they don't become receptive.
[–]ayorke69 8 years ago [recovered] (3 children) | Copy Link
I think girls can pick up on that internal loathing and anger vibe, which is why it is really important to love yourself and to become inwardly calm and maybe a bit spiritual. It reflects as an outward confidence that coupled with putting their interests and needs as a priority over your own interests, will allow you to make that connection. It is so easy to love someone who loves themself.
[–]SuchCombination 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
I don't exert anger with people, just myself. I don't hate myself, just the shit that happens to me.
[–]ayorke69 8 years ago [recovered] (1 child) | Copy Link
I understand, but I think people can often sense negative emotions that are inwardly directed. It may manifest in the odd comment, body language, or even a psychic vibe. Don’t forget, this is life, and if it can find a way to bone you, it often will. You can’t control those kind of things, just how you react to it.
Do you try and find a positive spin on a negative situation? Are you kind? Do you show compassion to others? Do you go out of your way to make the world a bit better for others?
I know it sounds trite, but those things will often make others want to gravitate toward you. At the end of the day, you are the sum of your experiences, and how you deal with them and grow as a result.
I’m sure my rambling isn’t that helpful, but don’t give up hope, strive every day to be a better person, focus on others and I’m sure you will make that connection you are looking for.
[–]SuchCombination 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Well, to reflect. I've always been seen as that "nice" guy. Just kind to people whether it be helping them with homework or giving some dude food cause he was hungry. I've also been fucked over with a person who I was very close friends with that I was talking to about my depression and a month after that he started completely ignoring me. Now I'm a 190-200 pound tank who constantly either thinks about his future,suicide, working out, if there's any hope. I can't say I've been having fun. By fun I mean happiness, hanging out with friends is great but it's temporary.
[–]Steely_Jackson 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
It sounds like you need to clear your mind. You have a lot of issues to sort out. Time alone to think about yourself + talking to your friends and being open about who you really are with them will help you grow and mature. You should look to your social circle for support. Don't be afraid to look bad, you have a lot to learn and it's difficult. But you can do it and become the person you want to be. I believe in you!
I have. They don't really understand it.
[–]Giggitymaster 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Hello me from 2 years ago.
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Thanks for the insight.
[–]NewBlash 8 years ago [recovered] (1 child) | Copy Link
I recommend a called book The Alabaster Girl. There are a lot of bs advice out there, but this book is the real deal for improving with women and romance. Give it a try, your future self will thank you.
Noted, thanks pal.
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