How to become that guy

Nanashi_x01 · 2025-01-29T02:28:46+00:00

I am probably gonna be downvoted for this but here it goes:-

In my personal anecdote, "looks don't matter". Now I have a good reason for this. If you look like Brad Pitt, will girls look at you and you will have an easier time? Yes. Does this mean looks matter? Well keep reading. If you look like an ugly troglodyte, will girls look at you with curiosity? Yes. Will you have a harder time? Yes. However, if you are average looking like most people, most girls won't look at you. You will be kind of a background character. So for most people, looks do not matter.

So how do you escape being a background character? Approach. With cold approach, attraction is immediate because you kind of get that main character energy. Girls concentrate solely on you and no one else in the background.

I have another personal anecdote for this, I have friends who look better than me and when I approach the girl (with the friend not speaking at all but standing beside me), they would just concentrate on me. Like the friend didn't exist at all. It went the same away when my friend approached (they don't pay attention to me at all even if I am standing right beside him). So when I approach with full confidence, some of these girls' eyes just light up as if they seen Brad Pitt irl. But lemme tell you, these same girls (who I would have considered above my league) wouldn't give me time of their day if I met them in a social setting. Because then, I don't stand out and there is competition with other guys, who will also be talking to her in that social setting. You beat that competition by cold approaching. Cold approach is like a cheat code.

Btw apart from confidence, stuff like pre-selection or any thing that adds value also causes attraction.

TLDR:- In regards to most men, looks don't matter. Confidence matters more than looks. Same girl can reject you or accept you depending on the confidence that you demonstrate and not your looks. You just gotta pass the looks threshold which you will, unless you look like an ugly troglodyte. And demonstrating high confidence can be done via cold approaching.

Ausernamenottaken- · 2025-01-29T01:17:25+00:00

Work on improving your social life. More parties, outings etc. make it known that you’re actively looking and your network will eventually help you.

Particular_Head_7934 · 2025-01-29T02:07:33+00:00

I’m a tad bit shy but I give off this weird quirky energy at times. And say some outlandish things and I feel like girls never choose me.

Look, lets just face it bro. we're stupid chuds and its probably over. In fact, its never been more over.

in all seriousness. none of this matters and you wont feel better just bagging some random chick. Just enjoy your life.

offabenz · 2025-01-29T01:33:12+00:00

Just be yourself bro. Do things that you want to do instead of trying to do something to impress a girl. The best relationships come when you least expect them

Title	How to become that guy
Author	Horror_Storm_4064
Upvotes	3
Comments	5
Date	January 29, 2025 1:11 AM UTC (1 year ago)
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