I feel like I missed some vital education in communication but several times when i'd hooked up with someone i was super up for casually hooking up again but somehow i completely fail to get that message across and I never hear from these men again in that context, but if I meet them (casual sex for me happens with friends of friends) they come up to talk to me, are always nice and interested in the conversation. Once I even asked a friend i'd slept with why we never went out again and he said that he felt like I had zero interest in that and didn't want to embarrass himself by suggesting. I really don't know what it is that I do / don't do.

Then this weekend I hooked up with a guy / very drunk / i'm leaving the city in a week and he knows this. I just want to hook up again because it was fun and I don't feel like being home alone whining about the stress of moving. What do I do? Is it okay to just write something very blunt? How does this work out for other people?? Do I live under a rock?