How to react in this situation ?

recyclablebanthas · 2016-08-12T12:00:28+00:00

We sleep together (but no sex, we were too drunk), I stayed at her home all the morning because she wants to, and we continued to share our emotion about lots of things.

First of all, next time don't drink so much and facilitate things going to a place where sex could happen. At least if you want sex. I mean, why not? You're on vacation, right?

In any case, you were clearly looking for something else besides sex, and that's fine, but going the emotional route probably cut that possibility off. Which is a shame because it's a different kind of intensity.

Also, going so emotionally personal probably made things awkward and scary. I mean, that's pretty fast to get that deep. Especially if you live in another place.

She was really interested and show it permanently, do you have any idea why she flakes?

Any number of reasons. Probably she was only looking for something not so serious.

Like sex and some connection. Because despite what some might think, a little connection is fine and even desired by girls, even in a temporary situation. Instead, you acted more serious. You say you physically escalated but never pulled the trigger. That means, over time, that you were almost acting like a girlfriend for her or a boyfriend without the sex, which is not much better.

.....as if we had known from a long time. How can I create the same vibes next time?

You can't just create it out of nowhere. This is what happens when you meet someone who fits you in a certain way.

All seduction really is, is screening people and looking for ones that you connect with like this. It's not making people into ones who connect with you. That's not really how it works.

.....but I had a really good feeling with her and now I miss her (and it hurts a little to be honest). I don't understand why I feel like this and I don't know how to avoid this type of feelings.

You can't avoid these types of feelings, not if you want to remain open to this kind of experience happening again.

You have to risk being hurt if you want this again. It's a matter of changing yourself to where you don't invest so much in someone too early.

But if you pull back and avoid those feelings altogether, you will kill the part of you that attracts this kind of experience.

Big_TX · 2016-08-12T21:26:44+00:00

Cuz she left the country....

Continuing this would be weird. She probably doesn't want to be all strung out emotionally with some guy from a different country that she never even sleep with.

Did you make out with her ? All you have to do is flirt with her. Hole Eye contact, Square up, take her arm and put it behind you and grab her lower back. Then go kiss her.

Or if you are sitting down you use your hand. Gently grab her chin, turn her head and kiss her

bornno1 · 2016-08-12T11:40:34+00:00

You may have failed to escalate all the way bro

Title	How to react in this situation ?
Author	Kingstantin
Upvotes	1
Comments	6
Date	August 12, 2016 10:19 AM UTC (9 years ago)
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