So, I'm "abstinent" (I am waiting until I'm in love for my first time) but I do everything up until third base- and a problem has arisen. How do I "make my intentions clear" without actually saying "Hey, I wanna hook up, but not go all the way"? This has actually become a problem, as gals have gotten to my bed, and then left when they realized I'm not willing to have sex with them. Any suggestions?