I've been dating this amazing girl for about 2.5 years. We both graduated from grad school and moved to different parts of the world. She's in Europe and I'm in Asia. She's supposed to be in Asia with me in about 18 months after her training is done.

I'm visiting her now, she's been here about two weeks and last night we went out with a bunch of her coworkers. Since she works in finance, she's one of the only girls at this bar. Also, working in Europe, there's a heavy drinking culture. So obviously I realize she'll be in the lions den several times a week, but it's usually with the same group.

Anyway, last night was a lot of fun and I felt like it was just a good fun atmosphere. But there were still overt jokes about getting her to fuck one of them for his birthday and I wasn't sure how to handle that situation.

We're going out with the same group again the next three nights.

A few questions...

How can I keep her hooked from a distance?

What can I do to get these guys to accept me as one of their own and to not tempt my girl while I'm gone?

Should I just let a rumor slip that we both have HIV?