So in my life I have experienced HORRIBLE bullying and very traumatic experiences with girls, to the crippling point mentally. I have a lot of scars from that and that in turn caused a severe lack of confidence. I also was "blessed" with HORRIBLY nearsighted vision, ADD, OCD, and a sensory perception disability, so I was just set to go. I kept thinking, man I wish I could just change and say fuck this.

One day I woke up, and said, FUCK THIS. I purged my life of negative people, and just ignored my mind from telling me I couldn't change. I just DID. I started looking at myself objectively, looking at my pros and cons. Then I began working out the cons and embracing them, same for the pros. I then began to tell myself "I am the shit. I am more than enough. Its people having a chance with me. Its their loss if they don't accept me. Anyone I don't like, doesn't have to be included in my reality. I shape and control my reality completely." I then began giving ZERO fucks, I have no thought filter, I say what I want, when I want.

I have the right to state my feelings and opinions, as does everyone else. I learned that if I shut the hell up and listened to people, I formed great relationships and had amazing interactions. I refuse small talk, I ask a person something, make strong eye contact, use pauses and silence to let there be padding in between exchanges and then use a pause before I answer, you can literally get a person to completely lead a convo with saying only a few words. He who is interested, is interesting.

I have fun and enjoy situations and make the best of them by either calling out any awkwardness or creating and rolling with the vibe. With women I've been having good encounters with being flat out honest and clear about my feelings and intent. To quote James Marshall "Make No Apologies but Take Full Responsibility". What this means is don't apologize for how you feel or think, but when you display this you are responsible for the outcomes.

I personally am looking for a girlfriend, a companion, not just unattatched sex. So I feel out a person and look at their personality, but I go for women I'm attracted to physically and then put them through a qualification test to see if they are worth my time, worth bringing into my life. If they are I boldly say that I like them, think they are filled with personality and beautiful and would like to take them out to lunch. Don't be vague or say you wanna be friends if you don't. That's misleading.

If you want something with this person, say it and go for it. or someone else will. The only outcomes will be acceptance, rejection (and if so, they arent worth your time as they wont even give you a chance to get to know you), gain respect or gain a friend. Its a win-win situation. Plus you will have made them feel good about themselves. I always "tell" them to give me their number, I hand them my phone with the numpad already open, as it is requiring the least effort.

I text them when I feel I want to, fuck day rules. I am casual about it. I mainly ask questions and get people to tell me things because i'm interested in everyone and want to know a least something unique about everyone I meet. I always make strong eye contact to connect with them and smile and speak slow and steady, with purpose, and put pauses and silence to either force pressure or create a bubble between me and that person. By completely ignoring the surroundings and only focusing on that person, envisioning a bubble around us, I am solely focusing my attention on that person, and that makes them feel important.

This is what I have learned and I want you to benefit from it, please ask any questions or give any advice. This is a very important subject and it needs to be as vast as possible so we can save other guys time and make their lives as rich as possible as early as possible.