[NEED HELP] CREATING SOCIAL CIRCLE

the1mancircus · 2017-04-17T20:39:48+00:00

One of the key elements to discovering new friends that you are going to jive with is to position yourself where you can discover social anchors AND through that find social anchors as well.

Here's how I go about finding new buddies.

POSITIONING

I have three general overarching interests or projects that I involve myself in that give me space or the venue to find new potential friends.

Music: As a drummer, I am constantly looking for new people to play music with. With that, I frequent bars, concerts, and the like with the aim of finding new buddies.

Game: Being a connoisseur of the craft of game, I, with every opportunity, drop hints that I am a propagator of game truth. This is generally done in bars, at meetups, etc.,

Cycling: I love mountain biking. To find new buddies, I make it a point to go out and attend new meetups for various mountain biking activities. This gives me ample opportunity to meet new avid cyclists like myself.

CONVERSATIONAL BAIT

Given that my time is valuable, I want to automate or streamline, as efficiently as possible, the filtration process of potential buddies. I don't want to associate with losers, scum bags, or guys that just don't get it. To do that I use conversational bait.

Here's what that conversational bait might look like.

"Sounds like you're running a harem of women. How do you do it?"

This obviously can take a myriad of forms. The idea is to simply drop some bait, to see how they respond to feel out whether or not they are going to be the kind of dude that you want to associate with.

My general heuristic for injecting these bits of bait is to employ an air of power talk/plausible deniability, where I ask a question that leads with, "it seems like you..." or "how do you bed so many women" or whatever it doesn't matter. You're just trying to avoid hitting them with some sort of accusatory remark that puts them in the defensive crouch.

Once they have bit on the bait, slowly reel them in to feel out whether they're like-minded or not. If they are, exchange numbers and buy them a pint at some point,

TL;DR?

Get out into various social settings: bars, clubs, meetups, networking events, intramural sports, dance classes, etc., and drop conversational bait to assess whether they will be a good bro-fit or not. If they are, swap numbers, and invest in them.

Remember, investing in others, via lunch, drinks etc., is investing in yourself.

I get the impression that MAYBE an area you're struggling with is with the social element itself. Questions like, "what do I say?", "how do I maintain a conversation with a stranger?" etc. If that's the case, I have a list of an increasing number of social hacks for guys, either new to game and seduction, or guys just looking to enhance their social skills. You can find it, and other game-centric wit and wisdom here...

https://hamsterhacks.wordpress.com/2017/03/27/social-hack-sheet/

Also, if you're in Denver PM me and we'll grab a pint.

the1mancircus · 2017-04-17T21:23:26+00:00

Ya man. If you want to reach out you're welcome to reach out to me via twitter @theaxelaustin or via the contact page of... https://hamsterhacks.wordpress.com

I'd be happy to email back and forth in your quest to social mastery.

Filou7474 · 2017-04-18T18:14:35+00:00

I got all my friends by practicing sport (calisthenics)

I started it with my only friend, we were always together with no other friend

Then people joined us, and now we are about 15 practicing, all good friends and hanging out all the time together

Title	[NEED HELP] CREATING SOCIAL CIRCLE
Author	krekerce
Upvotes	4
Comments	6
Date	April 17, 2017 5:39 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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