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[–]WathupSP 0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago* (1 child) | Copy Link
Every single opener you wrote down, is not good imho. maybe the one "hey, I think your super fun, and cute, I'd love to get your number" but even that one, i would change it to "hey,i know this is sudden, but i think you are cute, lets grab a coffee" or something. But never say something like "awkward" or that trick with the phone. That will move you into creepy-territory. Thus eliminating you from ever going further, not only with her, but with any woman. You are not awkward, nor is the situation. This situation is normal, you find her attractive, you want to get to know her. Nothing is awkward, delete awkward,creepy and other negative words from your vocabulary. Secondly, that trick with the phone and her noumber, yes you lead, but in a creepy way. You tricked her into getting her noumber. Thats a self-knock-out. Let HER type HER noumber into YOUR phone, always. Thats my philosophy. Solution What i would do is, next time you are casually there, talk to her. Get her out of "autopilot-mode". Try to get her to talk. If she opens up even a little bit to you, your chances of getting her noumber rises-drasticaly. Ideally you will make a strong statement about her, and get an "inside-joke" between the two of you running. Get creative. IF you do this you are not just "the regular" anymore in her eyes. She has an identity to link to your face. This is the chance. Look out if her Body language is open AND if she holds your eye-contact(hold eyecontact, very important). You dont have to look for IoIs, look for IoDs. If she is not closed up or gives no bad-vibes, next step. Be forward, show your intentions. "Hey you know, you look like an interesting person, lets grab cofee someday." If her awnser is yes, smirk (aka sexy smile) take out your phone, give it to her. There. You got her number. Ps: for it to work, two major points you should work on, especially in front of a mirror, is eye-contact and a sexy smile (smirk), dont show too much teeth,or better none at all, thats a friendly smile. If someone has a better idea in your eyes, follow that one. In the end, it comes down to what YOU prefer to do and feel like. Find your own game.
[–]hwatamidoing 0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago* (0 children) | Copy Link
Thanks for the solid advice I will try to do this. I have another business meeting and I was going to go there tomorrow, but I think I'll try to change venues so I can talk to her more casually, maybe get her to open up more.
I think I'll use the fact that's she's my server every time as the strong statement. Something like "Wow, [her name] again? I think I'm going to have to change tables. You've been my server every time I've been here!" I'm not sure if negging her in a professional environment would be ideal so I could go with something like her: "how are you today?" Me:"Well considering you've been my server every time I've been here, I can't complain," or "You again? I think you've been my server ever single time, you must like me or something." But I can't stop thinking that her being at work in front of coworker, bosses, and customers will limit my chances of getting her number.
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