Newbies tips

Jcicoak · 2017-07-18T03:51:48+00:00

"Tips", this sounds like you want quick fix tactics. I understand committing to deep inner change seems burdensome and arduous, but trust me, it is necessary to actually gain results. Believe me when I say this instead of finding out the hard way by trying and fucking up.

Things to eliminate:

Tying your self-worth to the girl and her responses. No one wants every little thing about them to be scrutinized by someone else who derives how they feel about themselves and their self-worth to the small things in your behavior. This communicates neediness, insecurity, and will drain the other person. Learn to detach yourself from other people in a way and bring things to the table, be the one giving out validation (aka. good emotions) instead of trying to take validation. You need other people for that shit. You have everything you need already. Give it to yourself.
Be loose and have fun. Don't be a dancing monkey - someone who searches for reactions and who acts out because they want to provoke that attraction or certain response from peers around them. These people do it because they anticipate a positive response BY doing it. This is flawed in that the action is based on other people and their reactions. Do things when you feel like it and because it makes YOU feel fun and happy. Don't try to rub it in people's faces trying to be funny or fun in a try-hard way. Do it for the sake of having your own fun.
Watch RSDMax's Manifesto on YouTube for technique.

moontripper1246 · 2017-07-18T07:08:30+00:00

Baby step it. your biggest enemies in the long run of this game are being lazy about going out and being fearful about actually approaching that girl. So long as you build SOLID habits doing those two things, you're on a pretty fuckng set path to getting decent at this.

This isn't some overnight thing. I have no expectations of you finding this sub then getting laid by next week. Took me 4 months to get laid, took some of my friends a lot longer (albeit that's cause they're picky). Could take you more than a year depending on who you are and how much energy/time you put into this.

Start by just getting yourself to go out consistently. You don't even need to approach (that's what you tell yourself to get out of the house and to a venue. Approach tho.) See.....I'm gonna link you a bunch of resources and vids and shit, and you can sit in your room and watch them all. If you download everything I tell you to, that would take you more than a week with working and sleeping thrown in the mix. At the end of the day though, you don't NEED to know any of the theory. It's just there as a motivational tool and a guidepost for when you have a VERY specific question/scenario you want to go over. You aren't at that point yet. Here's where you are.....this is the only advice you need for the next 6 months. GO OUT AND APPROACH. That's it. That's all you need to hear for the next half-year. That's all you need to be worried about, that's all you need to be focused on. Get the fuck out of your house, and start talking to some pretty girls. Your a newbie, you don't do this often if at all, you need to get yourself used to it.

K.....so that's a little ramble on that.

Now, your obviously going to obsess over what to say and what specific PUA terms mean and everything. So I'll give you a bunch of links to various rabbit holes you can lose yourself in. Just.....don't listen to anyone who says "oh, don't learn that style it turns you into x negative description". They don't know what the fuck they're talking about, and everything has SOME value in it, it's just up to you to find and extract it. There are a lot of PUA companies nowadays that have specific step 1-2-3 products available (and I'm going to tell you about some I personally like) so naturally they'll have a lot of fan boys that don't like other companies yadayadayada.....just don't decide that there's only one right way to do this. There are a ton, and you're going to have to figure out what works best for you, and that means trying a lot of new shit.

Anyways ---

Tyler Durden spouting off for a while. RSD has won of valuable free content. For your sake I don't think you should dive into too much of their free videos yet. They're just so.....unorganized and ramble that you'll just get confused by watching a bunch of them It's al good stuff, but for the sake of giving ou a clearer path to follow torrent their products. They're online, just look for them.

Torrent: Pimp rsd Julien, Shift rsd Julien, The Blueprint Decoded rsd Tyler (but don't watch it until you've been gaming for like a year. it's so fucking heady), PDF 'Get Laid or Die Trying' by rsd Jeffy, Daygame rsd Todd.

I hear a lot of great things about The Natural rsd Max, but I haven't seen it myself soooo.....

This is your bible. Read everything he's ever written. Type any subject into the search bar and he's got something valuable on it. Never stop reading this archive.

Pretty solid on going sexual/sexual vibe.

Tyler Durden's old writings. Decent material but don't go crazy with it, it's kind of outdated.

A blog that's decent in describing some male-female relationships in society. Get's a little societal for me though. Not so much Game material but still well informed male-female social dynamics.

Blackdragon is an old PUA that specializes in Open Long Term Relationships. He doesn't really go to nightclubs at all, he's mostly Online at this point, but his writings are really solid in regards to OLTR's.

I always really liked this video on Natural relationship dynamics.

Mystery Method. Super oldschool, but profoundly solid. Everyone makes fun of him and how his students develop, but fuck all that shit. Read what he writes, put it into practice and you'll see for yourself. (just don't use his routines. Make your own. they're so outdated anyways.....i'd be surprised if they work verbatim.)

.......so yeah. That's everything off the top of my head. Pop in every now and then, let us know how you're doing. Loll

Imjustheartless · 2017-07-17T21:05:47+00:00

Alpham on youtube How to win friends and influence people: audiobook on youtube

moontripper1246 · 2017-07-17T23:40:47+00:00

I'll write up something long when I get to my computer

Endoss · 2017-07-18T00:56:49+00:00

Literally the sidebar of this sub

Title	Newbies tips
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Date	July 17, 2017 8:02 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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