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[–]MrsDonutMind 0 points1 point2 points 6 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Hey! I’ve just started lurking on this sub and I’m not sure if that’s how people give advice here. Not a seductive myself but as a woman: PLEASE do not let it get to the point where she feels uncomfortable! You seem like you want to persist A LOT in the physical aspect of things, but please don’t. Be respectful if she says no (and this is talking about the first no) step back straight away, let her think about it, change the subject, make her feel more comfortable with you and then maybe try a second time but don’t insist this much, it’s creepy. I was cringing just reading the post mate, sorry. As a woman I would feel very disrespected and annoyed and honestly would probably snap at you and leave the date if you tried to kiss me a 3rd time after 2 rejections (specially if in a row as you seem to plan). Again: Don’t let it get to the point where she feels uncomfortable, it will already be uncomfortable for her to say no the first time. Let her make the decisions, don’t be pushy. I hope this helps. Good luck.
[–]TheIgnobleSavage1 point 6 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link
Appreciate that, but a lot of PUA's and seductive types say persist 3 times before bailing. It's all about how you do the persistence and what kind of resistance they're putting up. So like holding back a minute and looking at her with strong eye contact is persistence. Saying something like 'I thought you liked bad men' as you lean in slowly and kiss her is persistence. If it's flat out 'no I really dont want this' while she strongly turns away then persisting wont get me anywhere...look at these 2 examples for what I mean. A lot of girls will put up resistance over all sort of intimacy so for guys it pays to know how to handle these situations.
https://youtu.be/ksfi8CAbRoI https://youtu.be/6uRcbOLGymc
[–]quinnmcd[M] [score hidden] 6 years ago stickied comment (0 children) | Copy Link
This post had to be taken down because it appears to be focused on a specific situation or person. While Field Reports deal with specific situations and people, remember that the focus is different:
No worries though! Though the thread has been taken down, any conversations you have started here can still continue, and if you want to PM a mod to get their opinion on this thread, feel free to do so and they will still be able to weigh in.
For next time, remember that posts about a specific situational advice with a specific person are fine as field should be directed to Ask Seddit (/r/askseddit), not to be confused with Ask Reddit.
Also if you think this is too much, I would warn you now that there are a lot more creepy (and i would say almost rapey) PUA'S out there who really just advise being as physically persistent as possible which is terrible advice cos most girls wont do that (see stuff like this https://www.girlschase.com/content/secrets-getting-girls-dont-let-her-go)
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