I could finally lose my virginity not long ago and have regular sex. Initially I had a slight erection issue, but we could work it out and the sex was good. She couldn't come from the actual sex, though, but my fingers and tongue never disappoint, so she couldn't complain.

Around the fourth time I started to develop premature ejaculation. It wasn't severe (5-10 minute range), but one time I came under like 2 mins and the second round was only 5 minutes too, so I panicked a bit. Fortunately, my frame is kind of strong by now, so I passed it as a shit test.

I chose edging daily up to 30 minutes, as a possible cure. This only led to a severe erectile dysfunction. Our foreplays are usually really long (>1hour) and I am rock hard during the entire thing, every time, but when it comes to actual sex, I probably become anxious and my boner dies down. This time it was so bad, we couldn't even have sex, since (after I stood it up) I became flaccid as soon as I out it it. Rinse and repeat like 10 times and she becomes sore and we have to stop. Fortunately, she is a wonderful girl, who understands my problem and supports me with all her power, but it can't go on forever. This was yesterday. My frame broke too, I was so angry and disappointed in myself, I couldn't stop my tears. I barely managed to hide this from her, but next time I will fucking break.

I could solve my ED and PE too, but fighting them both at the same time seems to be impossible with tricks like Kegels, edging, or NoFap. They are both sides of the same psychological coin. I am sure that it's performance anxiety, and I know that I should only focus on my pleasure, but I am clueless anyways.