Context:

  • I'm new to the Seddit community and to PUA in general, but I suspect I used to have some natural game.

  • I'm at Coco's with my wife** and daughter.

  • I have long hair, down past my shoulders. I normally do a ponytail, but today it was down.

  • I'm considering getting a haircut as a result of wanting to look better and build up my game and inner confidence.

  • I'm 6'2" and I weigh 335 lbs. and I was wearing a nothing solid colored t-shirt and khaki shorts (not great clothes for this purpose).

  • A 10 set of women happens to sit at the table near us. They're fairly attractive, but in my age range (not too young).

  • I go to this place all the time; I know everybody who works there, including the manager and main waitress.

  • I know I need practice and figure this is a golden opportunity.

I decide I'm going to open them. My wife takes my daughter to the bathroom; I go to pay the check. The 10 set has seen me with both my wife and daughter, so I'm no threat to them at all (remember, this is practice for me working on AA, my goal is to get their opinion on long vs. short hair, not to number close any of them, and I have like 2 minutes to work with before I have to leave). I feel a bit of AA while I am paying for dinner, and decide that means I have to go for it.

I approach by putting my hands on the back of two chairs at the corner of the table with: "Excuse me ladies" (they all snap their heads around to look at me) "My wife won't give me a straight answer and I need your help with something. I'm thinking about cutting my hair and donating it to the charity that makes wigs out of it for cancer patients"

Girl to my left chimes in: "Oh, Locks of Love"

I point and her: "Yes, that one. I did some research and I think my hair is long enough now to donate. So what do you girls think, long or short?"

Almost unanimous from all the women with no hesitation: "Short."

Me: "Short?" (Holding my hair up in a ponytail as to make it appear to vanish)

Alpha girl across the table: "Yeah, and the shorter the better." (Massive eye contact with her, I then work my eyes around the table to all 10 girls making eye contact with each of them as I continue talking)

Me: "Alright ladies, thank you for your opinion. There's 10 of you (counting them by pointing) so you have one extra to be the Supreme Court, but I'll collectively give you guys 1 vote, my wife 1 vote and my daughter 1 vote." (They seem pleased by this, relaxed)

I continue: "Alright, Yvonne (waitress and know and who likes me) will take good care of you guys; she's really great. Have a good time."

And I walk off like a boss to the bathroom to gather my daughter from my wife, As we walk out: I wave to them and say "Thank you" and 3 of them see me and wave back.

** My wife and I have an amicable splitting up situation, but for other unrelated reasons she's still my wife. She encouraged me to open them.

Analysis:

  • I should have set the real time constraint

  • I didn't have a further plan for breaking the set into smaller groups (they had at least two conversations going when I walked up)

  • I was dressed poorly and I'm still working on my physique

  • I overcame the AA I felt at the cash register

Conclusion:

  • Just do it.