~ archived since 2018 ~
Popular
Other
Xaveel
[–]dryhole 9 years ago [recovered] (5 children) | Copy Link
I would say, don't try to force this to be more that it can be, I think what you want happens only organically, if she is available to you easily she wants too something to happen between you and her. If she's not available then she doesn't. Invite her to come with you to Barcelona, see gauge her reaction.
[–]Xaveel 9 years ago [recovered] (4 children) | Copy Link
Some days ago I've asked her, she said she has no enough money at the moment, and she told me she wouldn't join me because we still don't know well. We talked about that again just 10 minutes ago, she was telling me other places to visit and I told her "Try to think also to somewhere to visit with me :)" (well, actually it wasn't THAT emoticon), and she said it would have been hard to realize, but for the fact that she's working to gain the money she'll need for her summer vacation and maybe no more travels will be possible for her
[–]dryhole 9 years ago [recovered] (3 children) | Copy Link
Well, her summer vacation could include you as well ;) ? Don't ask her all the time though to join, you already expressed your interest, saying it over and over makes you TOO available, you have to be with someone that you don't need to try too hard just to be with them, at least I mean putting yourself down and disregarding all your needs just to be with X person. A bit extreme, but I am just talking out of my personal experience, hope this helps. Just don't force it buddy. If she wants to be with you, she will. Now how to make her want to be with you? Hmm well just live your life to the max, have plans, do whatever you want to do, and some woman will find that amazing, and would want to join in all that good fun your bring to the table. Might be her, might be someone else, who knows.
[–]Xaveel 9 years ago [recovered] (2 children) | Copy Link
Well, thank you buddy. The fact is that she's amazing, so beautiful and smart and I really WANT her. Anyway I'll never put myself down for anyone.
[–]dryhole 9 years ago* [recovered] (1 child) | Copy Link
I know that, I met someone like that just 2 months ago. I said to myself many times, she's perfect, but right now I am in the process of getting her out of my head. Don't build her up. Don't say she's beautiful and smart and that you can't go on without her. This is a dangerous line of thinking. Be more like ok, she's good looking, she's smart ok ok ok, but what has she done for me? How does she make me feel? Does she show intrinsic interest? If you are the only one trying to make it work because "she's the best" it won't work. I don't want to be negative, but I am struggling with this shit, so I would be happy if my thinking helps you to avoid such a situation. Friends were telling me all this and I was dismissing them, if she doesn't actively pursue at least as much as you do, don't build up your expectations.
[–]Xaveel2 points 9 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link
Again, thank you. This is a really good advice.
© TheRedArchive 2026. All rights reserved.created by /u/dream-hunter
[–]dryhole [recovered] (5 children) | Copy Link
[–]Xaveel [recovered] (4 children) | Copy Link
[–]dryhole [recovered] (3 children) | Copy Link
[–]Xaveel [recovered] (2 children) | Copy Link
[–]dryhole [recovered] (1 child) | Copy Link
[–]Xaveel2 points [recovered] | Copy Link