I'm struggling with this question and would love some input. How much should I care about looking 'downbad' or pathetic when I'm talking to a girl I'm interested in?

For example, is it bad to double text sometimes, to be the one who reaches out after an argument, or to show that I'm really into her? I’m not saying I’m in love or anything and im not looking for something serious but we both enjoy the benefits of staying close so i want to keep that connection .

Part of me thinks I should just be honest and not worry about looking desperate cuz im just being myself i guess, but another part of me doesn’t want to come off as clingy or obsessive or like I’m putting in more effort than she is . How do you find the right balance between showing interest and keeping your self-respect

I’m kinda learning to cope with these kinds of situationships, so I’m not sure if I should care about all that or just learn from what I consider mistakes as I go