Talking too much!

vhmt · 2015-01-04T03:58:51+00:00

This used to be huge problem for me, and is a gigantic problem if I'm on any uppers (molly, etc., etc.) so I stay away from them in general now. I understand where you're coming from man. I'm an engineer, and I feel like my mind is racing at a million miles an hour compared to the average guy. This doesn't bode well for me when it comes to women (as you've found out for yourself). This is my trick:

The next time you notice that you have something to say about something she said, you'll notice that you're starting to think about what to say about what you just thought. There's a problem though: she's still talking! Just make a mental note of your thought, and continue to listen to her. Stay present always.
Remember that the goal of you talking to friends is to largely keep things interesting and help each other grow. When it comes to girls, there is an obvious third reason: physical and emotional intimacy. By talking all the time, you are not allowing attraction and sexual tension to build, which is effectively killing any room for sexual tension. So keep in mind that, although you want to talk your head off about subject X, you should maybe hold off until after some healthy sexual tension has built and is on track to keep building throughout the interaction. If you really must talk about this subject, you must be prepared to ask yourself if you see this girl as more of a friend. If there is any doubt, then do NOT talk your head off about that subject and focus more on building the attraction! :-P
Being able to talk about things fluidly together is still important! Although you don't see it now, you have a natural ability to build comfort and rapport with the girl since you're able to talk about pretty much anything. This is something that a lot of guys lack at the beginning/in certain scenarios, so don't completely shirk this skill. Just get better at moderating it.

bcl0328 · 2015-01-04T02:12:49+00:00

self-awareness

Title	Talking too much!
Author	[deleted]
Upvotes	4
Comments	2
Date	January 3, 2015 11:54 PM UTC (11 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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