Hey guys, I don't wanna go through my story, so basicly my question is this: I'm a handsome guy with a low selfesteem (girls often seem to be judging me as a player, because I'm always quiet at first but I quickly prove that I am a disappointment compared to what they imagined) I am often paralysed the first hour of a party, but once I get into the group I'm good at getting to know people. My sticking point though, is that I get stuck in the friend zone (nothing new, I know). My friends always tell me that I've gotta make my move, but I NEVER LEARNED OR DEVELOPED A so called MOVE. All I can do is speak with girls about everything and nothing ("smalltalk") until time draws out and it's bedtime abd no way I'm getting invited.

Case in point: it seems like I get the basic attraction from some girls but what is the key to moving the conversation unto a more intimate place? I've tried with all kinds of girls and I am nothing more than an utter and complete failure.. I am typing this at 3:30 after a whole night of trying to get to know a girl better and am just about to kill myself out of frustration.

Please give me some solid advise and not just "be your self" bull crap because being my self gives me only vague acquaintances and I'M SICK OF IT!!! Help me help me so that I can one day help others! Thanks, you guys!