In recent years I learned that im a very reserved person to the point where I wouldn't know if a woman liked me or to the point where being so nonchalant and calm turns them away from me. basically, too cool for my own good. This even relates to how I interact with others where I come off as a quiet distant asshole with no personality(a girl has told me this), I feel like a very independent person so needing to interact and have conversations is something I do, nothing more, nothing less. You could imagine this has affected my dating situation.

How do I fix this??? Is this a real problem??? I don't feel like its a confidence problem or social anxiety issues