Hey r/seduction,

I’m 19M in my freshman year of college.

Some background information:

I’m 5’7.5, 170 pounds and losing, and I’ve never kissed anyone. I’ve been in 3 relationships, two of which were LD and one of which was juvenile and her parents restricted us heavily.

I’ve always been better at connecting with women than men, for one reason or another I have always had way friendships with women then men.

When I was younger it was due to physical disabilities that made sports difficult for me and something I never really gained interest in.

I’ve done a lot of self discovery recently and I feel like I’m ready for another relationship but at this point in my life, I identify as Demisexual and by the time I’m interested, the person I’m pursuing is no longer interested. I’m a caretaker type and I care about and treat everyone equally.

For those who don’t know, Demisexual means I don’t develop a sexual attraction to someone until I have a strong emotional bond with them.

So how do I change my mindset? How do you learn how to change the way you treat people? How would you format the game when by the time someone is ready to play the other person has dropped the connection?

Any advice would be useful. Thanks for reading.

Tl;dr I don’t get attracted to people without an emotional bond and treat everyone the same because I care. How do I change my mindset?

Edit: College, not high school. It would be really weird if I was asking for advice on HS dating.