Hi Guys,

New to the forum and getting into the game. Had a Uni Ball, a couple of days ago. Did a few approaches but no luck. Had no number closes etc.

This is Australia BTW and social circle's play a huge role. I dont have a strong social circle, so have to do extensive solo pickup's on lone individuals.

My approach anxiety is minimal (I still cannot use the 3 second rule) and need to time it.

Not sure what I did wrong, but here is a outline of my approaches/experience:

Outline: :

I dressed sharp (probably the sharpest ever ~ no glasses/contacts, combed hair etc). Got complemented by two of my international room mates (no friends with all so they wont complement me). Caught one (8.5/10) eyeing me and looked at her as she was checking me out. But I did not want to waste my time with this one, as I did dance with her at a previous function, but literally no chance for a makeout etc (has a boyfriend back home).

Approaches about 20-25 girls at night (random approaches). 1) Saw this incredible 10/10 blonde was mind blown easily. Damn, so fine looking. So kept a slight eye on her and approached at the right time using a Direct Complement. She blushed and I introduced myself and shook my hands with her and left. Did not reattempt to chat with her again (should I have ~ not sure).

She always hanged out around a group of girls (5-6) at the ball and the after party club, so it would probably been hard to isolate her. Also, saw that none of the guys approached her or tried to hit on her. ( ~ Not sure on how to deal with this type of girls ~ but she was totally my type and defs single).

2) Approached another person from my course (lower year level) ~ easy approach. Introduced myself etc. She was alone so asked her to walk with me and introduce to her friends. But could not located her other friends at that time :\

3) Directly approached one of the random girls who was on my table and sitting alone bored, looking at the phone. Initially talked as I stood, then sat next to her. Initial reactions very positive, joked a bit and mentioned that she wants to dance with me later.

I was getting a bit bored later on, so asked her if she wants to dance (made a move), she said yes but also got her friends. As we were dancing, she and her friends decided to get a photo and left me :\

Tried re-approaching but she was not receptive. I got the feeling that she did not want to talk. Not sure, How I blew this up :\

4) Our table had one missing member, I took the opportunity of sitting next to two ladies. Introduced myself confidentally, got this person hooked up (she was a first year). Tried to get her hotter friend to join the convo (to no avail - I have a short voice).

But the rapport with them died. As they failed to make convo with me and I didn't have ability to keep conversing with them. Did not see them again at the ball. Saw them at the club, but did not bother approaching again. I think, they were a bit shy.

5) Tried using a direct complement opener on a good looking girl from my course (lower year and who has never seen me), who I kind of had a crush on. I just went to her table and sat net to her and used one of the lines "I think I have seen you before, do we know each other and then the 'direct opener' "

The funny thing was, I tried to joke around/play game (similar to number 3), she got confused and introduced me to her other friend who just approached and LEFT the table LOL.

Not sure how I blew this one up..... Did not bother reapproaching ~ might again try day time (Prefer daytime approaches ~ less competition). After talking to her, dont think she is my type.... Probably a party girl - they are tough.

6) Talked to her friend. Was not too interested in her (neither was she), so shook hands and left in a min

7) Saw a girl, sitting by the phone alone on the phone. Approached her, asked hey hows it going etc etc. What are you doing etc. Not a bit boring, she did not reciprocate (I had to keep hammering questions).

8) Found a guy walking around. I was like "Hey buddy, how are you doing, saw you at xxx". He was like yeah.

Tagged along with him met his friends, introduced myself (he did not introduce me) to an asian girl and she just left.

9) Tagged along with the above guy, saw another asian girl introduced myself and she was kind of receptive. But we ran out of things to talk and I left (I wish ladies were no chatty).

10) Was walking around, saw a guy helping a girl with her foot ~ along with couple off her friends 2-3. Approached her friends, joked like "Damn you guys got a medical casualty, how terrible, hope you guys can groove it up on the dance floor etc." The injured girl looked up at me and I winked LOL (probably should not have).

Anyways, I then left.

11) Standing in line for a group photo. Complemented the girls behind me on their dress, asked generic questions on ~ where is the photographer etc.

Was for a short time, did not do anything.

12) Went to the night club. On the bus, sat next to a girl. Tried to converse with her (ESP stuff). She was receptive but could not hear my voice.... :\So I gave up.

13) Saw a good looking girl at the bar. I approached, was like "Hey brooke, hows it going and gave her a hug" She was like wtf is happening LOL. I continued saying, I saw you in my class etc and she said she went to a different uni. I apologised and introduced myself.

But convo did not go anywhere.

14) Saw one of the lower year dudes, introduced myself at the club (go direct - "Hey hows it going"). Got introduced to his friends in the social circle. Did not bother with any as I was not interested.

15) Had one of the lower year girl (from my course) eyeing me. I do not know this girl, but have seen her around campus. Saw her doing it a couple of time (probably did not believe I would come to clubs). But did not bother introducing myself as she has a boyfriend.

Now when, I look back, I probably should have. Would have gotten me access to her social group as she was dancing with a pack of girls :.

16) Saw girl sitting alone on table at the club checking her phone. Went to her and asked for time. Tried go further saying, its pretty late, what time does club close and whats brings you here etc....

Did not go further, as she looked back at the phone.

17) Was getting tried of the club and decided to go back home. Decided to do one last direct approach for an adrenaline rush. Approached this b***hy looking girl but sexy dress/legs. So used a direct approach and commented on her well fitting pants. Probably negged a bit (by mistake) by commenting on the wrong material. She accepted my approach, looked at me, corrected me and then just shrugged her shoulder looked straight and avoided my eye contact.

I was in a hurry, so just left.

Thats all the cold approaches, I can remember doing (and probably did some more indirect one). I am not very good with Kino but even without it, I felt that my approaches fell flat especially in getting the person interested.

A room mate of mine, not a confident bloke did 1 approach (hardly a approach, friendly convo) and was already making out with this girl (room mates again) in the club.....

Keen to gain suggestions!