Hello Seddit.

I've been lurking for a while and had enough beers tonight to think typing some posts would be a good idea. I am a software developer and live in a college town with a pretty big party scene that is known to get wild. I didn't actually start learning the game until I was in college; I was way too infatuated by masturbation in high school to want to get out of my comfort zone and meet women. I decided to post a couple of the epiphanies I have had since:

1) You're just trying to make new friends. You shouldn't even begin to consider how you're going to seduce a girl if you haven't first established what it's like to be friends. That doesn't mean you have to know every last detail about them but it's a great way to drive a conversation. (Would she be interested in going with you to a dog park? Has she seen the new movie that you just saw? What are some things I already do with my friends that she might also be interested in doing?)

With that said, be the friend you'd like to have. Think of your best friends and the people that inspire you; these are the people that bring the best out of you. A good friend cares about your well-being, is fun to be around, and respects you.

2) When it comes to actual pickup, the psychological concept of "planting a seed" when you're in public is fascinating. As you walk past the bar, lock eyes with someone you fancy, smile, and continue on your way. Congratulations! That person is now subconsciously thinking about you. Later on in the night once you've had a few drinks, walk over and see if they're the type of person you'd like to have as a friend.

Duck Shin