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[–]-torched- 1 point2 points3 points 10 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
I'm guessing someone had a birthday recently? I believe you were 16 in your original post a little while back, haha.
Anyway, I'll try to keep my insights short. Try to watch whether her behavior changes when she comes back. Keep in mind that this is a young girl going on a vacation to Spain. This isn't your typical , "Hey I'm driving upstate to visit my smelly grandparents." It's very likely an immensely novel experience for her. From what I gather, she's a young, (I'm guessing also attractive, otherwise why would you bother?), in Spain, and is into gymnastics. These are all tells. On top of all that, girls in general have the attention spans of little kids, and they can lose interest fairly quickly.
All things considered, however, you should be optimistic. She said she wants to see you again. And, by your own admission, the first date went well. Just remember that all you've shared was a kiss, which, for a lot of girls these days, is literally meaningless. Keep your head up and move forward with that, but don't silence that voice inside your head reminding you to keep your game tight. Other than that, keep doing you. It seems to be working.
[–]EquesBritainniae 0 points1 point2 points 10 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
Thanks a bunch Torched. She also is into growing things, piano, running / athletics and a few things. Really smart too. How could I keep my game tight, as you say?
[–]-torched- 0 points1 point2 points 10 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
That's cool. I personally prefer doing more active things with girls, simply because I'm more of an active person myself. So see if you guys share a favorite sport or something. I don't know where you are, but it's summer here, so maybe go for a run with her. However, the caveat is that you don't want to toe the line too closely to the "these are just friends activities" line. And on that related note, to answer your question, frankly the best way to keep your game in check is to simply spend more time gaming chicks, even if you're not interested in them, and the hotter the better.
Some might call this cruel, but I enjoy flirting just for the hell of it, because it's just fun. Say, try going for a run/hike with her, then getting a bit more intimate when alone. This could definitely backfire though, since sweat and libido generally don't mix well. Or ask her to teach you some stuff about gardening/growing/whatever. Then throw mud in her face haha. I guess my whole suggestion is to be active and playful. Entertain yourself. You'd be surprised how well doing just that can work.
[–]EquesBritainniae 0 points1 point2 points 10 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
She has suggested surfing, knows a place. No idea how I would get down there, but guessing she wants to be active as I do. Short replies from her irk me a bit, I'm all confused.
[–]-torched- 0 points1 point2 points 10 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I keep forgetting that she's 14 and you're 17. Definitely changes things. Getting around for her is probably not as easy. And as such you'll probably have to take even more of an active role in planning stuff. Think of it as dragging her around.
[–]EquesBritainniae 0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
She dumped me
[–]cupertinosucks 10 years ago [recovered] (5 children) | Copy Link
Don't listen to Conotocaurious85, holy fuck that was bad advice. She just wants to take it slow man. Keep texting her but lay off on the sexual shit. She likes you, you did good.
Based on what she said ("I don't want to lose you xx😘😘😢"), I DEFINITELY wouldn't start dating other girls... that would break her trust. The reason why she's not texting you back as much is because she's in Spain, so chill out lol
[–]reflective_ -1 points0 points1 point 10 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
Exactly what this comment states. Listen, she enjoys your company and LIKES you. She wants to continue liking you and pursuing something with you, but does not want to get too physical just yet.
Just text casually every once in a while asking how things are going and try to joke around/bring up some inside jokes. You're not in a relationship so you don't have to talk every day.
Chill out for now and when she gets back take her on an awesome date! Good luck
[–]EquesBritainniae 0 points1 point2 points 10 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Thanks a bunch both of you! Very insightful, eloquently worded replies. I appreciate the time you both took to reply (as well as the others who have replied - thank you). She's 14, but very mature. Thanks again to you both. Any ideas for a second date? We went bowling then food for the first.
[–]carneynillermdw 0 points1 point2 points 10 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
She's 14? So are you trying to have sex with her? If so, you really need to find out how liberal her parents are. Some parents will just make sure she gets on birth control and impress upon you guys the necessity of using condoms. On the other hand, some parents go straight crazy over this shit, so watch out. If you fuck this up, it might be bad for you. Most likely, they will just make you two break up. Worst case scenario, they are ultra conservative protectors of their daughter's purity and they break your legs while you scream and cry about how you're only two years older. Parents like that don't give a shit about such petty details.
[–]EquesBritainniae 0 points1 point2 points 10 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
What the hell? Who said I wanted to have sex with her? Only been on one date, and I would like something more long term. Not yet, not even considering it yet...
[–]carneynillermdw 0 points1 point2 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
You're posting about her in r/seduction. Lot of guys on here trying to get laid.
[–]Conotocaurious85 -5 points-4 points-3 points 10 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
Sounds like she is putting you in the candidates bin, but is having some fun with the Spaniards. If you don't mind waiting it out, she will eventually make up her mind about you and let you know.
Until then, I recommend you go on other dates. Lots of other dates!
So don't text her, wait for her to?
[–]Conotocaurious85 0 points1 point2 points 10 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I would say def. respond when she texts you, and if you are going to initiate ask yourself this: "Would I send this to a friend I'm not sexually interested in?" If the answer is yes, don't send it.
There is no way to constantly stay on a girl's radar this early on. Girls have TONS of options. The best strategy I can think of is to elicit strong but positive emotional responses with you text messages, that way she will think of you. If you send her a "Hey how are you?" like all the other dweebs she will not feel that spike of emotion that will put you on her radar.
In a nutshell, if you initiate, keep them spread out. Like at most twice a week, don't be a creep. When you do initiate, make sure to spike her emotionally.
[–]EquesBritainniae 0 points1 point2 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I see. So remind her of a moment we shared, a hobby she told me about etc. It does annoy me at times when she leaves one word replies like "Haha xx" but don't look too deeply there I suppose. Doesn't do it much.
I don't know why this got downvoted, but it's definitely valid. A lot of times when a girl loses interest in you, it's because that interest has shifted to something/someone else. This isn't always the case, but it does happen. I'm assuming this girl is quite young so she might be an outlier, but for most girls, being on vacation is in other words being on vacation from the guys with whom she typically associates. She wants a break to have free nonjudgmental fun.
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