Alot of you guys go up to girls "wanting" something from her. Be it sex, her approval, validation, etc. You guys need to start GIVING instead of TAKING.

The reason you all have approach anxiety is because you want to take something from her. The reason you feel anxiety from 9's and 10's is because theres even more to take from them and when they reject you, you feel bad because she didn't give it to you.

You guys need to sit down and write in SPECIFIC DETAIL "What is she benefiting by being with me/interacting with me?" Go into detail on exactly what she's getting from all of this instead of focusing on what you are getting.