So I've been neurotically swiping on Tinder, deleting Tinder, and re-downloading Tinder to swipe more; tried using it to build confidence but really trying to get a date.

There's one girl that has matched me every time I do this. First I chatted her, then asked her out. No luck. Not even a response. Next time I matched her I dropped a cheesy but funny pick up line on her. No response. I also had a really specific bio on my profile once about finding somebody to marry and matched this girl again!

That's been a small part of my Tinder/dating life for the past year. This girl does seem interesting and genuine. But none of that really matters if she won't so much as meet me for coffee! I'm so confident that I could win her over if I could just get a date with her... I'm starting to wonder if it isn't a catfish profile.

Anyway, just a few days ago I downloaded Tinder again and matched her and we were chatting and I think she was really into it - she gave me her # I didn't even ask for it. She told me to txt her but I figured I would hold off on that a little. I think she's religious; she said her mom works at her church's ministry and I think I saw somewhere that she is Mormon.

I actually graduated school with a few Mormons and in middle school I was kinda close friends with a kid and he invited me to his birthday party and we went to the Mormon church to play basketball, but that's the extent of my experience with the church in general. I know they have some of the biggest happiest families and also some crazies just like any other "group." Sorry if this is turning into an overblown shitpost btw

Any tried and true methods for getting to know "religious" girls? I'm actually wondering about sex before marriage, how soon is too soon to talk about sex. And like, I'm not a super religious church-goer but I live by morals based on Christian values (or at least I like to think so) so like anybody out there waiting until marriage to have sex? Is it rude to expect her to be a virgin if she wants to wait for marriage?

How can a man trust a girl who says she wants to wait for marriage if there's a history of her with other guys? I barely know this girl but the whole "churchy" thing makes me wonder about what I've been doing with my life and why I'm not married with kids yet (yes this has been a goal of mine) and even if a girl isn't religious how can I trust her to not cheat and/or take half my stuff and walk out???