Being self critical

misterbadattitude · 2016-12-09T15:42:46+00:00

Everybody has fear, uncertainty and doubt. However when dealing with problems you need to focus on your goals and dreams. You have to give it your all or later you will regret that you didn't do it. Don't be afraid of making mistakes because from them you will learn more than staying in your comfort zone. Your future self will thank the man you are today for not giving up. You worry too much about things that do not matter, your health and time are most important remember that. Do work every day, but for yourself as in reading books, working out staying in shape.

As long as you got a roof over your head and food to eat you are already richer than a lot of other people on this planet.

And stop compairing yourself to others, this is a weak attitude that will drain your soul. You got your own qualities and you can work on your weaker sides.

Benny757 · 2016-12-09T20:14:48+00:00

The beauty of MGTOW is that with women and relationships, it is totally up to you to not play. Once you do choose this route, then you can focus directly, and specifically on your two major human needs - a job and housing. It's far easier to do this when you are completely MGTOW. No gal is ever going to take care of you in regards to these two main concerns. It's totally up to you.

Thevoiceofreason420 · 2016-12-09T20:27:27+00:00

First I'll tell you right now, call, the day after you apply for a job call them and ask to talk to their HR department or whoever is in charge of hiring. Thats what I did at my last job, I called I called every few days to let them know hey Im interested Im motivated I want this. Loads of people make that mistake, they dont follow up. Set yourself apart from the hundreds of other faceless people applying for that job, give them a face to put to your name and I promise you you'll already have a foot in the door over everyone else.

"But it feels like life is on hold and there is pretty much nothing I can do apart from applying here and there and to wait for something to happen."

Sounds like you need a passion. You dont work to make lots of money and buy a big house and all the fancy shiniest toys like everyone else, you work to follow your passion to do what you love in life. Figure that out, find something you can picture yourself doing in 10-20 years and once you find it chase your passion chase it with every fiber of your being. The thing about money is while it makes happiness a little easier to come by it doesnt outright buy happiness. I chose a job based on how much money I could earn, that was a huge mistake for me personally. You need to figure out what it is you want in life first my friend and thats never easy, you need to sit down and do some serious soul searching.

And finally heres a little story. When I was having some problems with my energy levels I went to see a gal who instead of following Western medicine follows Asian medicine. Its a huge difference, the first few questions were about my diet and how well I ate, next she asked me the last time I was truly happy. She told me she's had men in their 40s and 50s come in who have families and successful careers everything most of us wanted pre-Mgtow and shes asked that same question too. Shes said a lot of them think for a minute and then some of them, these grown men in their 40s and 50s, start to just break down and start sobbing like little babs, and its because they realize its been so long since they did something they truly enjoyed something that made them happy, they realize they put everyone in their lives ahead of themselves ahead of their own happiness. Dont be like that, dont wake up in 20-30 years and realize you chased money and not your happiness, that you put other people before yourself. Dont be like that my brother.

DWShimoda · 2016-12-10T03:35:34+00:00

My experience is this: There are so many applicants on the job-offers I apply to, I havent found one yet. And there are so many applicants on single-apartments, I also havent found one yet.

With both jobs AND housing, you are far more likely to find "success" via recommendations from/thru PERSONAL connections & network contacts -- and then using those to sneak in the proverbial BACK door -- that is getting your resume/application in before either the job opening OR the housing vacancy is even "listed" for the general public.

NOTE: If you need more "specific" advice (and most young people do) on how that works, how to actually DO that -- I'd highly recommend getting a copy of a book called "What Color Is Your Parachute?" (And don't be too concerned about getting the "latest/greatest" edition -- the chief advice/game plan that it presents is essentially the same in all of the editions -- oh, and it works for other things {like rental apartment/house hunting, etc} as well as job-hunting.) EDIT: looks like the guy has the basic info online as well (for free) -- read especially the top article/graphic on this page.

The thing most people fail to understand is that dealing with (flipping through, trying to filter/vett good candidates from) all of those "applications" is NOT exactly a "picnic" for the employer/landlord either.

Naive people(*) may think that it's some kind of "feast" where they get to pick & choose "the very best"-- but the harsh reality is that it's much more like a "toxic-shit-laden-smorgasbord" -- where the vast majority of the hundreds of available "dishes" are very low quality, and the few that appear to be good, well there is always the risk they contains some potential (hidden) "poison."

* Especially those who have never actually been in the position of landlord or hiring manager -- and I'm not talking about "HR" or "agency" types but rather the people in the operational positions -- who then have to actually deal with the aftermath, the consequences of the resulting selections.

Title	Being self critical
Author	lollipoopex
Upvotes	14
Comments	7
Date	December 9, 2016 3:00 PM UTC (9 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MGTOW
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