I posted this in askfeminist and they removed it. What do you guys think?

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Hello, as always I have been reading threads in here and other feminist, and women-centered spaces. I have seen a dominant viewpoint where women say if men fail within x subject with y privilege, then they don't deserve success. For example, there was one regarding the education gap, saying that maybe boys were just more naturally inept than girls, and this was demonstrated by lifting the restrictions on girls that prevented them from shining. No further intervention is needed because this is how it naturally should be. This was not the only opinion, but it was the first post, which would only be allowed if it agreed with feminism.

The Second was regarding men joining the women-centered conference. There was a side point that they could have been there because they were desperate and needed visas. There were highly upvoted replies that if men can't get jobs despite all the privileges they have without invading the women's conferences, then they don't deserve to stay. For the third one, I don't remember the details so I may be wrong, but there was a thread about women owning more houses than men, and there were top-level comments about disdain for men for owning less than women despite the advantages they have.

I feel when there is a gap within other groups for example the pay gap there is talk of equity vs equality, and that because women get pregnant, they have an unfair disadvantage so it affects their earning capability, and it's about giving people a fair chance given their circumstances. However, when it comes to the education gap, for the group of women who discussed boys may simply be less capable, there was never the idea of equity.

I am not saying feminists hate men. I recognize most gender concerning male centered spaces have way more hate than female centered spaces, which is why I stopped going there. In women centered spaces there isn't necessarily hate but acceptances of disdain towards men from what I observe. Another similar side point is that in twoxchromosomes one of the most attacked groups of women are boy moms.

Based on this I have two questions:

What in your view is a scenario in which the feminist position to a failing of men in a certain aspect to be that men need help because it's a scenario of inequity.

Do you think you would be able to recognize (I) a phoenomena that inherently disadvantages men (II) a law that unfair impact men?

Do you agree that women centered spaces are unhealthy for men with low confidence/self esteem to visit due to how much disdain there is for the failure of men? To rephrase if you had a son/brother with low esteem would you advise them against going to such forums/threads?