So I've been browsing the main sub for a bit now and am trying to take in and understand as much as possible, but I started seeing a girl before learning a lot of this, so was hoping for some advice. I have read the sidebar, handbook and read daily posts. I do have memory problems, so consistently trying to take everything in.

I'd imagine the advice would be to next this girl and not "fix" things with this oneitis. Against the fact that this might be my best bet, I want to try to keep this going and gain more/back control.

Some background… We've been seeing each other for half a year now. At first I had some red pill traits. I was juggling 3 plates and was not as available. Then after a couple of months I dropped the plates and told this girl I wanted to be exclusive. (I know, now.) She said yes. Then I said she's my girlfriend. She said she wasn't ready. I know... Terrible I was the one.

Anyways, we have lots of sex every single time we hangout. We both pay for stuff, but I pay for more and she only offers once in a while otherwise I have to tell her it's her treat. At first we used to do a lot of different things. I took her out with a couple of friends for a random party night, took a weekend road trip, bowling, movies, outside adventures, a family christmas party (i know...), etc. Now we only go out for dinner once in a while and she's not as into me as she once was, sending me nudes and trying to work for me.

All in all, she gives though I now give more than her, but I love the sex and she's very compliant with anything I do to her sexually.

So now… Yesterday I called her around noon and she never returned my call at all, even though she had the time to post to social media with her friends. Later, I messaged her "are we still on for tomorrow?" She read it, but didn't respond. Then way later at 1am I get a message saying she’s off work at 6 and she wants to do something fun. (She’s seen many videos/pics of me and friends having a blast and always says “how come you never take me out to these cool events?” She's very popular and has her own fun large group of friends too.)

I'm wondering advice on how to handle this specific situation. Ignoring someone's call/text is bad etiquette and no respect in my mind. Especially when she had the time to post on social media. It shows disinterest too.

If she's expecting something fun and I give it to her, isn't that like rewarding her for nothing/ignoring me? How can I make her work for it or something? What can I do here?

I know I should be the prize, but I've fucked up. Now I guess I'll try to use dread, pass shit/comfort tests, etc. and just keep working on myself and try to meet women when I'm not with her, but I'm wondering on other advice on how I can become the leader again in this specific situation?