Do women in your family shit-test you?

[deleted] · 2016-06-20T19:56:09+00:00

My sister used to say things to intentionally annoy me a lot. I don't know if you'd consider that a shit test, but if so, I failed every one, until I found TRP. Learning about shit tests and maintaining frame are two of the most important lessons on TRP. My sister was an extremely mean person, and it got so bad that I straight up ignored her for about 6 months. She realized that I would not take her abuse and has shaped up around me. I have a brother whom I am really close to, so we don't need her at all, especially the way she was acting, and she realized this.

friendlyneybor · 2016-06-20T19:24:47+00:00

It's different for a Mother and her children. There are times when she may say or do something drastic with disregard to how you feel and while you should always treat your Mother with respect, if you're an adult and completely self-reliant there needs to be an element of self-respect. She needs to know when shit is too much and when she should back down but again, WITH TACT.

Sisters will be siblings. It's not so much a shit test as a dick measuring contest that never ends. You can gain respect from sisters but they'll always feel entitled to be able to mess with you. And once again, if she over-steps her bounds she needs to be corrected but in the correct, respectful way.

Eyes_Of_The_Dragon · 2016-06-20T21:20:50+00:00

Yes but there's no sexual tension.

empatheticapathetic · 2016-06-20T22:13:24+00:00

My oldest sister is also sort of a mom figure to me. She shit tests everyone in the family and I learned to not take her bullshit for a second many years ago. But she's always trying to win at any cost and wins or at least breaks everyone elses frame.

My other sister is kind of the black sheep and she's easily the most normal and never shit tests anyone. Just enjoys life with her Chad and tries to make the most of her life

Mom shit tests my brother when she's disappointed in him. He's very beta.

Title	Do women in your family shit-test you?
Author	rubenbrasil
Upvotes	1
Comments	6
Date	June 20, 2016 7:15 PM UTC (10 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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