I've long known of The Red Pill if only in passing. I used to write it off as just a bunch of losers making overly elaborate excuses for their failures with women. And certainly there are factions that fall into this category (sluthate.com comes to mind), but I would like to direct my question towards those who have taken the pill as an opportunity for genuine self-improvement and haven't just given up on having fulfilling relationships with women.

The trigger that has lead me here was OKCupid. OKCupid and similar sites have been my goto tool for meeting girls for.. a long damn time. 15+ years (yeah, I'm old, 42). While I have had some success in the form of about 3 LTRs and a handful of first dates, the experience was, overall, fairly negative. My main complaint was the extremely poor response rates from women. In short, it's fucking exhausting and demeaning. I could never really put my finger on why though. I thought it was my failing. I'm not ugly. I fiddled with profiile pics, first message content, editing and re-editing my profile. Always trying to be sincere because I know women get a lot of really lewd messages and they hate that. So I wanted to stand out by being the one chill dude with something interesting to talk about...

None of it worked. I had months of dry spells until I'd just run out of attractive and interesting women near me.

Then it hit my like a ton of bricks yesterday: Women are attention seeking and many, if not most of them, don't even give a shit about meeting guys (online). They are there primarily there for the validation. Feeling down on yourself? Login to OKCupid and see that 5 more guys think you are attractive! Don't even need to read the messages. Maybe give the profile pics a glance and see if one of them is especially hot, but otherwise, who cares what they have to say?

It's just a game to women. Dating sites give them ALL the power. And it's probably the last place any male should go if he's already having trouble meeting girls.

Ok, so this sent me into a dark downward spiral that lead me here. I was furious and defeated. And now I kind of hate women for not being what I wanted them to be. But that's no way to be. I want to love them for who/what they are, but how does one do that with the knowledge they they are potentially manipulating you at any given time? Can I really embrace the game and be happy?

One thing is for sure, I will never get married again.

How can I still have meaningful relationship with women knowing the truth?