Hi,

I have finally pulled a trigger last week and moved out of 8 year abusive relationship, daughter is involved, not married. Currently living at parents house to save money. I need some help in deciding how it is best to resolve my situation.

I want to keep seeing my daughter. I see her almost every day as my grandmother is looking after her so I keep making back and forth trips in delivering my grandmother. We agreed I get to keep my daughter for 2 days a week for now. Knowing her she can change her mind instantly and be abusive. The house is rented that I was living in, cost is £1600 with bills, nursery another £450. The bills are split half half. She is most likely going single mother route and applying for government support etc.

She has started off being nice and asking me to come back which I did not budge and ignored her, but last night she was fucking aggressive and abusive that I am not giving a fuck about her wants. Accusing me of having another girl etc, I simply kissed my daughter, said I will not be coming here and taking her abuse and walked out, few missed calls and Facebook messages started pouring in how I should disappear and all my family should fuck off etc. All ignored.

She has been harassing me with questions why I left etc, I said it’s all my problem, I have issues and so on, been really calm like never before about it all.

Do I just keep ignoring and don’t take any shit of her until it hits her that this is real? I don’t want to be paying so much for the house each month for this bitch to live in comfortably, my tenancy clause is that I can exit after 6 months, but obviously I want my daughter to have a roof over the head.

I’d like to hear someones feedback who has been through similar case.

Thanks