Feeling fucked up

JoesIcedTea · 2018-11-02T23:17:57+00:00

'Ah, yes, the past can hurt. But the way I see it, you can either run from it...or learn from it.' - Rafiki

Debrief yourself. What went wrong, and how do you fix it for next time?

gokuzoma3 · 2018-11-03T00:53:45+00:00

I’ve had nights like this. Usually it’s the nights where I go to a club with the intention of hooking up with girls.

In my experience, having a high SMV in a club doesn’t necessarily mean that girls are gonna be after you. A number of factors can affect how your come across to women. One of the main ones is that in a club environment, 90% of the guys there are looking to meet women, meaning that a women that you’re attracted to has probably already had 10 other guys approach her over the course of the night, who probably have high SMV. She can literally pick and choose whoever she feels like. This is why your high SMV doesn’t automatically qualify you for success with girls at a club.

In my experience, when you go to a club your primary focus should be having fun. Go with people who you’re comfortable with and know how to have a good time. When you’re in a group with friends, and you’re having fun, not caring about what others think and not actively looking for women to talk to, you naturally give off a confident, alpha vibe which is more likely to gain the attention of women than if you were to walk around the club actively looking for women to talk to (this can sometimes give off a creepy vibe). You might find them hovering around you, which makes it so much easier for you to make the first move.

GrimTRP · 2018-11-03T00:26:57+00:00

Stop going to clubs if you want to feel happy. It's a false lifestyle.

_jaboob · 2018-11-03T01:50:00+00:00

It’s natural to feel bad about not getting the results you want since it helps you see what went wrong. However you seem to have other problems. Why do you need to be accepted by others so badly. Why not be outcome independent. You should feel secure in your own Self not looking to others for such intense validation. Even if you could fuck 99% of women on demand sounds like youd end up depressed over the 1% asking yourself if you’re not good enough. Ask yourself and meditate on why you care so much and really dig deep. You’d be surprised what comes out.

DoctorObby · 2018-11-02T23:18:15+00:00

Dude wut

derrtderr · 2018-11-02T23:17:47+00:00

“I thought my SMV is high enough to fuck any girl I want to”

Hmm lemme check.

Nope. No pity for you here.

Title	Feeling fucked up
Author	salamchik
Upvotes	0
Comments	13
Date	November 2, 2018 11:05 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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